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Mindful Speech: How Verbal Karma Shapes Our Lives and Spiritual Growth

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Understanding Verbal Karma through Chinese Traditional Culture and Buddhism

Language is one of the most powerful tools in human communication. It has the capacity to warm hearts, yet it can also deeply wound others. The ancient Chinese saying, “Illness enters through the mouth; misfortune comes out of the mouth,” serves as a profound reminder of the critical importance of our words. Another popular saying states, “A kind word can warm one for three winters, but a harsh word wounds deeply and is hard to forget.” Those who speak thoughtfully build strong relationships, while careless words often lead to unintended enmity or trouble. Indeed, many of life’s great misfortunes arise from verbal mistakes.

The Chinese ancients emphasized the principle of “cautious speech and careful actions,” which is not only a foundational aspect of personal conduct but also key to cultivating one’s character. In modern times, misunderstandings and conflicts often stem from believing rumors and passing on unverified information. This carelessness turns small issues into major problems, causing unnecessary harm. The impact of careless words can extend beyond personal relationships, disrupting families, friendships, and even society, sometimes escalating into widespread societal issues.

Buddhism’s Teachings on Verbal Karma: The Four Types of Harmful Speech

Buddhism profoundly explains the karmic consequences of speech. Among the “three karmas” — body, speech, and mind — verbal karma is especially critical. The Buddha taught that the consequences of verbal karma can be even more destructive than a raging fire because hurtful speech inflicts suffering on others. Buddhism identifies four types of harmful verbal karma:

  • Harsh Speech: Using cruel or aggressive words that directly harm someone’s spirit.
  • Slander: Spreading rumors or sowing discord, leading to broken relationships and disputes.
  • False Speech: Speaking untruthfully or deceiving others.
  • Frivolous Speech: Words that may seem pleasant but mislead or confuse others, distracting them from right mindfulness.

These forms of verbal karma not only harm relationships but also sow seeds of negative karma, inevitably leading to future suffering.

Chinese Buddhist texts record a story from the Song Dynasty: One day, Zen Master Guang XiaoAn observed two monks engaged in a discussion about the Dharma, during which they were surrounded and protected by heavenly beings. However, as soon as their conversation shifted to worldly topics, the deities departed, and evil spirits appeared, mocking the monks with vulgar language. This story serves as a reminder that even monks, when they deviate from righteous speech, will attract negative consequences.

In today’s world, the effects of verbal karma are even more pervasive. Carelessly spreading rumors, posting unverified information online, or making inflammatory remarks can cause lasting damage. Every harsh word is like a sharp blade, hurting not only others but also oneself.

Here is another powerful example that highlights the benefits of controlling one’s speech. At Mount Jiuhua, a sacred Buddhist site renowned for venerating Ksitigarbha Bodhisattva, there once lived a venerable nun. She was widely respected for her virtuous life and profound wisdom, embodying the transformative power of positive speech.

Even at the remarkable age of 136, she remained in good health, continuously reciting the mantra “Amitabha Buddha.” This practice not only reflected her spiritual merit but also her mastery of speech, and self-discipline.

The venerable nun understood the profound impact of verbal karma and strictly adhered to the principle of “cautious speech.” She refrained from gossip and focused her speech on chanting the Buddha’s name. In conversations about spiritual matters, she offered concise and clear guidance, leading people toward the right path. When topics were unrelated to spiritual practice, she chose silence. This self-discipline brought her immense merit, making her a role model for others. She often said, “For women, whether lay or ordained, if one can guard against verbal karma, one is halfway to becoming a Buddha.” Her words highlighted the critical role verbal karma plays in the spiritual path.

The venerable nun’s teachings emphasized the severe consequences of verbal karma. She made it clear that verbal karma is one of the greatest obstacles in spiritual practice and explained its multiple harmful effects:

  • Verbal Karma Obstructs Spiritual Progress: Every instance of harsh speech, slander, or frivolous talk not only harms others but also pollutes one’s mind, hindering spiritual purification.
  • Verbal Karma Leads to Lower Rebirths: Harsh speech is like a wildfire, burning away one’s merit and leading to severe karmic consequences.
  • Verbal Karma Disrupts Harmony: In families, communities, or society, harmful speech creates discord, making it difficult to maintain a peaceful environment for practice.
  • Verbal Karma Weakens Faith: Harsh and false words can cause others to lose faith in their spiritual path, even destroying their potential for future practice.

Her virtuous life and disciplined speech accumulated immeasurable merit. It is said that many patients with difficult illnesses were cured after receiving her blessings, a testament to the power of pure verbal karma.

Guarding Verbal Karma in Modern Life

In today’s world, controlling speech is more essential than ever. Here are some practical steps to guard against verbal karma:

  • Speak Cautiously: Think before you speak. Avoid spreading unverified information and refrain from gossiping or discussing others carelessly.
  • Control Emotions: When emotions are high, it’s easy to say things that cause harm. Cultivate a calm and peaceful mind to avoid saying hurtful things in the heat of the moment.
  • Cultivate Positive Speech: Use kind and uplifting words to resolve conflicts, build trust, and foster harmony in your relationships.

By understanding Buddhism’s teachings on verbal karma, we can become aware of the power of language and use it to bring peace and happiness to ourselves and others. Guarding speech is not only a sign of respect for others but also an essential aspect of personal spiritual practice.

Through mindful and compassionate speech, we can spread kindness, promote harmony, and enhance both the quality of our lives and the happiness of those around us. Let us strive together to use the wisdom of language to create more peace and happiness in our lives and in the lives of others.

Link：https://peacelilysite.com/2024/10/24/mindful-speech-how-verbal-karma-shapes-our-lives-and-spiritual-growth/

100. A Mother’s Wise Advice [Non-violence]

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100. A Mother’s Wise Advice [Non-violence]

Once upon a time, the son of Brahmadatta was ruling righteously in Benares, in northern India. It came to pass that the King of Kosala made war, killed the King of Benares, and made the queen become his own wife.

Meanwhile, the queen’s son escaped by sneaking away through the sewers. In the countryside he eventually raised a large army and surrounded the city. He sent a message to the king, the murderer of his father and the husband of his mother. He told him to surrender the kingdom or fight a battle.

The prince’s mother, the Queen of Benares, heard of this threat from her son. She was a gentle and kind woman who wanted to prevent violence and suffering and killing. So she sent a message to her son — “There is no need for the risks of battle. It would be wiser to close every entrance to the city. Eventually the lack of food, water and firewood will wear down the citizens. Then they will give the city to you without any fighting.”

The prince decided to follow his mother’s wise advice. His army blockaded the city for seven days and nights. Then the citizens captured their unlawful king, cut off his head, and delivered it to the prince. He entered the city triumphantly and became the new King of Benares.

The moral is: Kind advice is wise advice.

100. A Mother’s Wise Advice [Non-violence]

Link: https://hhdorjechangbuddhaiiiinfo.com/2024/10/22/100-a-mothers-wise-advice-non-violence/

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Holy Miracles Temple: A Sanctuary of Compassion and Healing Amid Global Turmoil

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Holy Miracles Temple, located at 1730 N. Raymond Ave., Pasadena, CA, serves as a sanctuary dedicated to teaching the true Dharma of the Tathagata, as transmitted by Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III and Shakyamuni Buddha, guiding disciples on their path to liberation and spiritual accomplishment. Grounded in the Buddha’s teachings and fueled by boundless compassion, the temple’s core mission is to selflessly serve humanity. Its hope is for people in America and across the globe to embrace Buddha Dharma, cultivating love for their country, fellow people, and the world. Through mutual support, peace, kindness, and auspiciousness, the temple envisions a strong nation with thriving citizens and a world brimming with joy and happiness.

In these challenging times, when suffering and catastrophe touch so many, Buddhism’s compassionate spirit calls us to extend blessings to all sentient beings. On October 13, 2024, the Holy Miracles Temple held a Blessing and Peace Dharma Assembly, a response to the unprecedented hardships the world faces today. Devoted Buddhist disciples gathered to honor the teachings of Namo Dorje Chang Buddha III, coming together to send prayers for healing and hope to those affected by natural disasters, conflicts, and upheavals. This assembly reaffirmed the Buddhist commitment to easing the suffering of all.

The event featured a solemn chanting of the Universal Gate Chapter of the Lotus Sutra, dedicated to Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva, the embodiment of compassion. The gathering was led by Abbess Ruzun Ruohui from Hua Zang Si Temple, who guided attendees through the prayers.

This year has been marked by profound global calamities. In the United States, Hurricane Helene ravaged Texas and Louisiana in August, displacing thousands and flooding communities. Just weeks later, Hurricane Milton unleashed further destruction in Florida and Georgia. Recovery efforts faced tremendous challenges as these back-to-back disasters left homes shattered and lives in turmoil.

In Asia, Typhoon Dindo devastated the Philippines, causing severe flooding and landslides across Luzon in September. Thousands of people were forced to evacuate as the typhoon submerged entire neighborhoods. Nepal, too, was struck by tragedy when a powerful earthquake hit in June, resulting in widespread destruction and loss of life in remote regions.

The war in Ukraine, continuing its escalation throughout 2024, inflicted further suffering on cities like Kyiv and Mariupol, leaving behind a deepening humanitarian crisis. Meanwhile, renewed violence in Syria once again brought bloodshed to war-torn cities such as Aleppo and Damascus, compounding the plight of its weary people.

Europe was not spared from disaster either, as record-breaking floods struck in July. Torrential rains overwhelmed parts of Germany and Belgium, causing rivers to overflow and submerging entire towns. Meanwhile, the United States’ western regions grappled with annual wildfires of increasing magnitude, destroying homes and forests alike.

During the Dharma Assembly at Holy Miracles Temple, attendees united in spirit and purpose. As the sacred verses of the Universal Gate Chapter resonated through the temple, the prayers reached out to those suffering from this year’s tragedies, seeking to bring healing and relief. Prayers were offered for the displaced, the injured, and those who had lost everything. In the face of conflict and war, the community gathered to extend peace, comfort, and hope to all those impacted.

This powerful assembly embodied the compassionate essence of Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva, radiating light and healing to all beings affected by suffering. It was a profound reminder that through shared compassion and collective action, we can create a world where all beings may find peace, healing, and joy.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/10/18/holy-miracles-temple-a-sanctuary-of-compassion-and-healing-amid-global-turmoil/

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98. A Man Named Wise [Cheating]

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Once upon a time, the Enlightenment Being was born in a merchant’s family in Benares, in northern India. He was given the name Wise. When he grew up, he began doing business with a man whose name just happened to be Verywise.

It came to pass that Wise and Verywise took a caravan of 500 bullock carts into the countryside. After selling all their goods they returned to Benares with their handsome profits.

When it came time to split their gains between them, Verywise said, “I should get twice as much profit as you.” “How come?” asked Wise. “Because you are Wise and I am Verywise. It is obvious that Wise should get only half as much as Verywise.”

Then Wise asked, “Didn’t we both invest equal amounts in this caravan trip? Why do you deserve twice as much profit as I?” Verywise replied, “Because of my quality of being Verywise.” In this way their quarrel went on with no end in sight.

Then Verywise thought, “I have a plan to win this argument.” So he went to his father and asked him to hide inside a huge hollow tree. He said, “When my partner and I come by and ask how to share our profits, then you should say, ‘Verywise deserves a double share.”‘

Verywise returned to Wise and said, ‘My friend, neither of us wants this quarrel. Let’s go to the old sacred tree and ask the tree spirit to settle it.”

When they went to the tree Verywise said solemnly, “My lord tree spirit, we have a problem. Kindly solve it for us.” Then his father, hidden inside the hollow tree, disguised his voice and asked, “What is your question?” The man’s cheating son said, “My lord tree spirit, this man is Wise and I am Verywise. We have done business together. Tell us how to share the profits.” Again disguising his voice, his father responded, “Wise deserves a single share and Verywise deserves a double share.”

Hearing this solution, Wise decided to find out if it really was a tree spirit speaking from inside the tree. So he threw some hay into it and set it on fire. Immediately Verywise’s father grabbed onto a branch, jumped out of the flames and fell on the ground. He said in his own voice, “Although his name is Verywise, my son is just a clever cheater. I’m lucky that the one named Wise really is so, and I’ve escaped only half toasted!”

Then Wise and Verywise shared their profits equally. Eventually they both died and were reborn as they deserved.

The moral is: A cheater may be clever but not wise.

98. A Man Named Wise [Cheating]

Link: https://hhdorjechangbuddhaiiiinfo.com/2024/10/08/98-a-man-named-wise-cheating/

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The Art of Graceful Living: Lessons from Yang Jiang on Simplicity and Inner Peace

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Yang Jiang, my favorite contemporary female writer, lived a life intertwined with the turbulence of her times, yet she remained as pure and free as a cloud in the sky. Her works not only reveal the beauty of literature but also inspire us on how to maintain inner peace and composure amidst the chaos of the world.

Yang Jiang’s translation of the poem, “I compete with no one, and I disdain competing with anyone; I warm my hands by the fire of life, and when it dims, I am ready to go,” reflects her entire life. In her quiet dignity and grace, she transformed the hardships of life into something serene and beautiful, never letting bitterness take root.

Her unassuming nature is perhaps her most remarkable quality. While many chase after fame and recognition, Yang Jiang focused purely on her love for knowledge. Her reading, writing, and translation work were not for the sake of recognition, but for the joy of learning. In her essay “The Invisibility Cloak,” she explains that humility is the best protection in a complicated world. By not seeking heights, one doesn’t fear falling; by avoiding ambition, one retains a sense of innocence and inner calm. Yang Jiang embodied this wisdom throughout her life. During the Cultural Revolution, when she was assigned the humbling task of cleaning toilets, she used the opportunity to find freedom in adversity, relishing the quiet moments to read and reflect.

Yang Jiang and her husband Qian ZhongShu

“Simple living and a noble soul are the highest realms of life,” she once said. This was not just a belief but a guiding principle for Yang Jiang. She valued her time deeply, distancing herself from superficial socializing and instead focusing on self-cultivation. Together with her husband, Qian Zhongshu, they shared a simple, intellectual life, each respecting the other’s need for space and quiet to work. After her husband’s passing, Yang Jiang withdrew even further from the world, spending her days immersed in writing and editing.

At the age of 92, Yang Jiang published her essay collection We Three, which received widespread acclaim. Even at the age of 103, she was still active in compiling and publishing The Complete Works of Yang Jiang, a reflection of her lifelong dedication to literature.

It was her ability to remove herself from the distractions of life that allowed her to create works of such lasting value.

Her translation of the eight-volume Don Quixote, once the best-selling Chinese version, drew criticism at one point as a “negative example.” Many writers rushed to her defense, but Yang Jiang responded with characteristic humility: “I sincerely declare that I am a humble translator. I have revised my translation over and over, and still feel it’s not good enough. I hope the experts will offer their guidance.” Her modesty and openness to improvement reflect the calm confidence she carried throughout her life.

In her book Walking on the Edge of Life, she wrote, “We once yearned for the waves of fate, only to realize in the end that the most beautiful scenery in life is the inner calm and composure.” This sentence captures the essence of her wisdom. She knew that, amid the noise and complexity of the outside world, it is the peace we cultivate within that is the most precious.

Yang Jiang rarely wore makeup, preferring to show her natural face to the world. This was not just about simplicity in appearance but about a deeper confidence and acceptance of her true self. She believed that external beauty was far less important than the richness of one’s inner life. As she wisely said, “A woman’s greatest strength is not how beautifully she dresses, but the ability to make herself happy no matter what happens.”

Through her life, Yang Jiang has shown us that even in the face of life’s greatest challenges, it is possible to maintain elegance and beauty by nurturing simplicity and inner richness. Her wisdom and grace continue to inspire us to live with quiet strength, away from the distractions of the world, focused on what truly matters.

Link: https://peacelilysite.com/2024/10/03/the-art-of-graceful-living-lessons-from-yang-jiang-on-simplicity-and-inner-peace/

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The Seven Treasures of True Wealth

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In this world, which sentient being does not desire great wealth? Which of us does not seek blessings and fortune? But what truly defines wealth? Most people measure it by the amount of money they have, the assets they own—be it real estate, cars, or stocks. These tangible things may seem like wealth, but they are easy to lose.

Money and jewels cannot provide lasting security—they can be stolen by thieves.
Reputation and status cannot guarantee stability—enemies can destroy them.
Family and friends are not unshakable—they can change as people’s hearts do.
Illness, aging, and death remind us that the body itself is fragile and impermanent.
Fate and fortune cannot be relied upon—karma follows us, shaping our circumstances.

So, what is the true wealth that we can hold onto in this fleeting lifetime?

Over 2,500 years ago, Shakyamuni Buddha illuminated the path to real wealth—wealth that transcends the material and leads to lasting peace and wisdom. He shared the Seven Treasures of Life, invaluable treasures that guide us to inner fulfillment and enlightenment. These treasures cannot be stored in vaults or spent like gold and jewels. They are the true treasures that nurture the soul.

The Seven Treasures:

  1. The Treasure of Faith
    This is the deep trust a disciple places in the Buddha’s awakening. It is unwavering confidence in the truth of the Buddha’s enlightenment and teachings. Faith is the compass that keeps a person on the path of liberation, a guiding light through life’s trials.
  2. The Treasure of Integrity
    Integrity means living in alignment with one’s highest principles. It manifests as abstaining from harmful actions—whether through speech, thought, or deed. A person with integrity refrains from violence, stealing, falsehood, and indulgence in intoxicants. Integrity is the treasure of a life well-lived with honesty, respect, and compassion for all beings.
  3. The Treasure of Self-Respect
    This treasure is found in the heart of those who uphold their dignity and honor. Self-respect means feeling shame at the thought of misconduct and avoiding actions that degrade one’s character. A person who treasures self-respect lives with a deep sense of morality and avoids causing suffering.
  4. The Treasure of Responsibility
    This treasure reflects an understanding of the consequences of one’s actions. It is a profound sense of accountability for one’s choices, knowing that every action—whether good or bad—impacts oneself and others. Responsibility is driven by a genuine concern for well-being, not out of fear, but from love and care.
  5. The Treasure of Learning
    Learning is the treasure of an eager and inquisitive mind. It is the pursuit of wisdom through listening, reflecting, and studying the teachings. A disciple who treasures learning delves into the Dharma, growing in understanding, and cultivating insight that transforms their perception of life.
  6. The Treasure of Generosity
    This treasure resides in an open and giving heart. It is the joy of sharing wealth, time, and kindness without clinging to material things. A generous person delights in helping others and is always ready to support those in need. Generosity brings happiness both to the giver and the receiver, and it enriches the soul beyond measure.
  7. The Treasure of Wisdom
    Wisdom is the crown jewel of all treasures. It is the deep understanding of life’s impermanence and the realization that clinging to fleeting things leads only to suffering. With wisdom, one sees the world as it truly is, cultivating peace, detachment, and the ability to make decisions that lead to lasting happiness.

True Wealth Beyond Material Possessions

Shakyamuni Buddha shared these seven treasures with his disciples, emphasizing that true wealth is not measured by material abundance but by these inner riches. Whether man or woman, young or old, those who possess these treasures are truly wealthy. Their lives are meaningful, filled with purpose, and unshaken by the ups and downs of worldly fortunes.

So, what can we learn from these timeless teachings?

Cultivate faith and integrity,
Grow in generosity and wisdom,
Walk the path with responsibility and learning,
Always remembering the teachings of the Buddhas,
for they are the guideposts to inner peace, fulfillment, and the truest wealth.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/09/26/the-seven-treasures-of-true-wealth/

Source: https://wisdomtea.org/2024/09/13/treasure/

The Old Boat and the Journey Within: Lessons from the Buddha on Cultivation and Liberation

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During the Buddha’s lifetime, there was a time when he was teaching on the far side of a river. Eager to hear his wisdom, many monks wished to cross the river, but there was only one boat available. The boatman warned them, “My boat is very old, and with so many of you on board, it could be dangerous!” Yet, in their eagerness to reach the Buddha, the monks ignored the boatman’s caution and all climbed aboard. Reluctantly, the boatman set sail.

As they reached the middle of the river, the monks noticed water seeping into the bottom of the boat, and panic began to spread. The boatman calmly said, “I told you this boat is old, but you didn’t listen. Now, if you can’t stay calm, the boat will sink even faster.”

Upon hearing this, the monks stilled themselves and did not dare move. Thankfully, the boatman’s experience guided them safely to the other shore.

When the monks arrived and recounted the incident to the Buddha, he offered this teaching: “When you were in the boat, you feared for your safety. But in daily life, you fail to realize that danger is ever-present. Many people worry about the uncertainty of the future, yet neglect the most important thing — being mindful of the present moment. Focus on this life, this moment. Pay attention to your thoughts and purify your mind of the five poisons: greed, anger, ignorance, pride, and doubt.”

The Buddha continued, “Our bodies are like that old, leaky boat. We must reduce its burden, and the heaviest load is the weight of greed, anger, ignorance, pride, and doubt. Just like in the boat, if we don’t repair our minds and lighten our burdens, we risk sinking. Only by addressing these burdens can we safely reach the other shore.”

“Do not be preoccupied with the thought of being reborn in the Western Pure Land in your next life. Instead, focus on your present condition. Are you free from afflictions in this very moment? Do you act with an open heart? Can you humble yourself in the eyes of others? These are the true questions we must face in life.”

The contemporary Buddha H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III  has also imparted timeless wisdom on cultivation. His Holiness teaches that true cultivation stems from the depths of your heart, from your bodhicitta — the awakened mind of compassion. Be genuinely friendly and loving to your spouse, your brothers, and your sisters. Foster harmony with your friends, act cooperatively with others, and extend care and help to all sentient beings. Apply the Four Limitless States of Mind — loving-kindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity — and cultivate bodhicitta in every action. Constantly reflect on yourself: How do you treat others with your words? With your thoughts? With your actions?

The conduct of Buddhas and great Bodhisattvas is marked by complete disregard for personal gain. When interests conflict, they give way to others, willingly taking fewer benefits or even none. You must remind yourself, “When others harm or slander me, I will not be disturbed. Even to those who harm me, I will wish them well, sincerely hoping for their happiness. Furthermore, I will take practical steps to help them, even offering financial aid — without letting them know that I am doing so.”

By living in accordance with these teachings, we become holy ones at the causal stage. Without a doubt, such cultivation leads to the perfection of wisdom and virtue. Achieving liberation and accomplishment becomes as simple as turning over one’s hand!

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/09/19/the-old-boat-and-the-journey-within-lessons-from-the-buddha-on-cultivation-and-liberation/

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The Legacy of Dou Yanshan: A Story of Kindness, Virtue, and the Law of Cause and Effect

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When I was a child, I read The Three Character Classic (三字经) and came across a verse: “Dou Yanshan, of righteous conduct, taught five sons, all became famous.” At the time, I didn’t realize how much meaning was packed into these simple lines. Later, I learned that they tell a profound story. Dou Yanshan’s life and deeds provide undeniable proof of the law of cause and effect, offering a timeless moral lesson for the world. I would like to share Dou Yanshan’s story with you.

Dou Yujun, also known as Yanshan due to his home in Youzhou (part of the Yan region), lived during the Later Jin period of the Five Dynasties. He lost his father at a young age, and was raised solely by his mother, to whom he showed deep filial respect, never daring to disobey her. At that time, most men married in their twenties, and by the age of thirty, if they had no children, they would worry about their lineage. Dou Yujun, still childless in his thirties, was deeply concerned about his future.

One night, Dou had a dream where his deceased grandfather appeared and said, “Yujun, your past life’s negative karma is heavy, which is why in this life, you are not only childless but also destined for a short life. My dear grandson, turn your heart toward goodness. Perform acts of kindness and help others. Perhaps by doing so, you may change your fate.” Upon waking, Dou remembered every word of his grandfather’s message. From that moment, he vowed to avoid all evil and pursue only good deeds.

One example of his kindness involved a servant who had stolen twenty thousand taels of silver. Fearing punishment, the servant wrote a bond stating that he was selling his young daughter to repay the debt and then fled. When Dou discovered this, instead of punishing the girl, he burned the bond and raised her as his own. When she grew up, he even arranged a marriage for her, providing a dowry.

On New Year’s Day, Dou went to Yanqing Temple to pray and found 200 taels of silver and 30 taels of gold near a meditation cushion. Believing it to be someone’s lost property, he waited in the temple for the owner to return. After some time, a man arrived, crying in distress. Dou asked him what was wrong, and the man explained, “My father has been captured by bandits, and after much effort, I gathered 200 taels of silver and 30 taels of gold to ransom him. But now I’ve lost everything!” Dou, realizing this man was the rightful owner, returned all the silver and gold and even gave him additional travel money. The man left, filled with gratitude.

Dou Yujun was known for his many acts of kindness. When friends or relatives couldn’t afford coffins for their deceased, he provided them. When children of poor families had no means to marry, he paid for their weddings. He lent money to those in need so they could start businesses, helping countless people survive. Despite his generosity, Dou lived a frugal life. Each year, after setting aside the necessary expenses for his family, he used the rest of his income to help others. He even established forty schools, collected thousands of books, and hired teachers of high moral character to educate the youth. He paid the tuition of poor students, helping cultivate many outstanding individuals.

One night, Dou had another dream in which his grandfather appeared again, saying, “You have done many good deeds. Because of your great virtue, Heaven has extended your life by thirty-six years and will bless you with five noble sons, all of whom will achieve great success. When your time comes, you will ascend to Heaven.” His grandfather added, “The law of cause and effect is absolute. The consequences of good and evil deeds may appear in this life, in the next, or in the lives of your descendants. Heaven’s justice is unerring.”

After this, Dou Yujun continued to cultivate virtue with even greater diligence. Eventually, he had five sons, and due to his strict and righteous upbringing, they were all disciplined, harmonious, and filial. All five sons passed the imperial examinations and achieved high positions: his eldest, Dou Yi, became a Minister of State; his second, Dou Yan, became a Hanlin Academician; his third, Dou Cheng, served as Deputy Prime Minister; his fourth, Dou Kan, was an Imperial Chronicler; and his youngest, Dou Xi, became Assistant to the Minister of the Left. Even his eight grandsons achieved prominence. To honor Dou’s achievements, the imperial official Feng Dao wrote a poem:
“Yanshan’s Dou family, with righteous teachings, raised five sons, all blossoming like red laurels.”

Dou himself lived to the age of eighty-two. He predicted the time of his passing, bid farewell to his friends, bathed, dressed in clean clothes, and passed away peacefully.

The law of cause and effect is undeniable. Whether the consequences of good deeds are seen in this life, in the lives of one’s descendants, or in future reincarnations, they are inevitable. Dou Yujun not only enjoyed a long life and wealth, but his descendants also prospered, and his peaceful death is a testament to the blessings awaiting him in his next life. His vast and profound kindness brought him blessings in this life, in the lives of his descendants, and in the afterlife.

The renowned Song Dynasty scholar, Fan Zhongyan, used Dou Yujun’s story to teach his own children about the importance of good deeds, leading to the prosperity of the Fan family. While many people knew about Dou Yujun’s deeds, few truly acted on them. It is like entering a treasure mountain and leaving empty-handed. What a missed opportunity that would be!

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A Single Rose Can Change a Life

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One day, a little girl, full of innocence and joy, picked some roses. As she wandered down the road, she saw a poor beggar lying by the roadside. She paused, glanced at the flowers in her hand, and gently placed the most beautiful rose beside the sleeping man. She smiled to herself, thinking, “When he wakes up, he’ll be so happy.” With that, she skipped away, her heart light and joyful.

The sweet fragrance of the rose stirred the beggar from his slumber. Groggily, he opened his eyes and saw the delicate flower in his hand. “Did someone really give this to me? Could something so wonderful happen to someone like me? It’s like the sun rising in the west,” he thought, bewildered. “The person who gave me this flower must be a truly kind and beautiful soul.”

Overcome with emotion, the beggar decided to return to his shabby home. He rummaged through a dusty corner and found an old, dirty bottle. Filling it with water, he placed the rose inside. For a moment, he admired the flower, but then something nagged at him. “Wait,” he thought, “This beautiful rose can’t be in such a filthy bottle.”

He carefully removed the flower, washed the bottle thoroughly, and then placed the rose back inside. But as he looked again, he noticed the dusty table beneath it. “How could such a clean flower sit on such a dirty table?” He set to work, cleaning the table until it gleamed.

As he stepped back to admire the scene, he suddenly realized: “How can this beautiful rose, in a clean bottle, on a spotless table, exist in such a cluttered, dirty room?” He made a bold decision then and there – he would clean the entire house! With renewed energy, he swept away the dust, arranged his belongings neatly, and cleared out all the trash.

With every corner he cleaned, the house became warmer, cozier. A sense of peace filled the room. It was then that he caught his reflection in the mirror – his disheveled hair, his dirty face, his ragged clothes.

“Is that really me?” he asked himself.

Without hesitation, he took a bath, put on his best (though still worn) clothes, shaved, and tidied himself up from head to toe. When he looked in the mirror again, he smiled. “Hmm, I don’t look so bad!”

“Why should I remain a beggar? Tomorrow, I will find work,” he resolved.

Unbothered by hard or dirty work, and unpicky about the job, he soon found employment.

“Someone gave me a flower, and it turns out I’m not worthless after all,” became his daily mantra. It motivated him to work diligently, and as the years passed, he found success. But more than that, he discovered a new purpose.

“A single flower changed my life,” he thought. “I must help others in the same way.” And so, whenever he encountered someone in need, he offered a helping hand. Over time, the number of people he helped grew, and within a few years, he became a respected philanthropist, known far and wide for his kindness.

The story doesn’t end here. Those he helped went on to spread kindness to others, creating a ripple effect that touched countless lives.

In truth, we all need a beautiful flower – a small act of kindness – to remind us of our worth. And that flower? It’s something we all possess and can give freely.

Isn’t it true?

  • In public, we can hold the door for someone behind us.
  • When we see someone feeling down, we can offer them a smile.
  • We can give a genuine compliment to brighten someone’s day.
  • On a rainy day, we can drive a little slower to avoid splashing water on pedestrians.
  • We can pick up a stray nail on the ground to prevent someone from getting hurt.
  • We can speak with kindness and warmth to everyone we meet.

These are simple actions, right? They require little effort, yet they have the power to transform lives. Just like that unnoticed rose changed the beggar’s life, our small acts of kindness can change the world, one person at a time.

In our daily lives, we often believe that once something is done, it’s over. Once words are spoken, they disappear. But in reality, it’s far from over. A kind word, a smile, a simple gesture – these can brighten someone’s day, create ripples of happiness, and leave a lasting impact.

Giving someone a rose, literal or figurative, not only leaves a lingering fragrance in their heart, but it also brings joy back into our own lives. Today, when we plant a seed of kindness, it may grow into a tree in ten years. In a hundred years, it could become a small forest. And in a thousand years, that forest may provide blessings to generations yet to come.

Nothing we do, say, or think ends at the moment. Whether good or bad, everything continues to spread, shaping the world around us.

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A True Friend

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Once, in a quiet monastery nestled in the hills, the Buddha sat before his disciples. The evening sun painted the sky in hues of gold and crimson, and the air was filled with a profound stillness, broken only by the occasional rustling of leaves in the gentle breeze. The monks, eager for wisdom, sat in reverence as the Buddha began to speak.

“Monks,” the Buddha said, “in this world, there are many who come and go in our lives. Some pass by like the wind, leaving no trace, while others remain, their presence felt deeply in our hearts. Among those who remain, there is a rare kind of person, a true friend, who is like a shelter from life’s storms, a beacon of light in the darkest of times. Such a friend is endowed with seven precious qualities, and these qualities are worth cultivating, for a friend like this is rare indeed.”

The monks listened attentively as the Buddha continued, “Which seven qualities are these? First, a true friend gives what is hard to give. He does not withhold generosity, even when it is difficult. Whether it be his time, his effort, or his possessions, he offers them freely, without hesitation. This kind of giving is rare, for many are willing to give when it is convenient, but few give when it costs them something.”

The Buddha paused, letting his words sink in, then added, “Second, he does what is hard to do. A true friend will go beyond his comfort zone for the sake of his companion. He will stand by you when others shy away, face challenges with you, and make sacrifices when needed, not for his own gain, but for the sake of friendship.”

The monks reflected on this as the Buddha continued, “Third, he endures what is hard to endure. Life is not always easy. There are times of joy, but also times of suffering and hardship. A true friend remains steadfast during the difficult times. He does not flee when the winds of adversity blow; instead, he endures alongside you, bearing the weight of the struggle as if it were his own.”

Then, the Buddha smiled softly and said, “Fourth, he reveals his secrets to you. Trust is the foundation of true friendship. A true friend does not hide behind a mask or shield himself with falsehoods. He shares his heart with you, revealing his vulnerabilities, knowing that in doing so, the bond of trust between you will grow ever stronger.”

“Fifth,” the Buddha continued, “he keeps your secrets. Just as he trusts you with his, so too does he honor your trust. He safeguards what you confide in him, never betraying your confidence, never allowing the winds of gossip to carry away what you have entrusted to him.”

The Buddha’s voice softened as he spoke of the sixth quality. “When misfortunes strike, he doesn’t abandon you. Life is unpredictable, and at times, suffering may come upon you like a sudden storm. A true friend does not turn his back on you in these moments. He stands beside you, offering support, comfort, and strength. He is like a tree with deep roots, unshaken by the winds of fate.”

Finally, the Buddha said, “The seventh quality is this: When you’re down and out, he doesn’t look down on you. In times of failure or disgrace, when the world seems to turn its back on you, a true friend remains by your side, never judging, never scorning. He sees you not for your misfortune, but for who you truly are. His respect for you does not waver, even when you are at your lowest.”

The monks, inspired by these words, bowed their heads in gratitude as the Buddha’s voice grew gentle. “Such a friend, endowed with these seven qualities, is a rare and precious gift. He gives what is beautiful yet hard to give, does what is hard to do, and endures the bitter words that life may bring. His heart is open to you, and he protects your heart in turn. In the darkest of times, he will not leave you, and even when you falter, his love for you does not falter.”

The Buddha paused for a moment, letting the weight of his words fill the air before continuing, “To cultivate such a friendship is a blessing for both parties. A friend like this is not just a companion but a guide, a mirror that reflects your virtues and helps you grow. Such a bond nurtures the spirit and brings peace to the heart. Therefore, monks, seek to be such a friend. Cultivate these seven qualities within yourself, and you will draw others of similar virtue to your side.”

The monks looked at one another with renewed purpose, understanding now that friendship was not a simple matter of convenience or shared interests but a profound practice of giving, endurance, and trust. The Buddha’s words had opened their hearts to the deeper meaning of companionship, and they resolved to embody the qualities of a true friend in their own lives.

And so, as the evening deepened and the stars began to appear in the sky, the monks rose, filled with a sense of peace. They knew that in cultivating these seven qualities, they would not only find true friends but would become true friends themselves—vessels of compassion and wisdom in a world often marked by fleeting connections.

The Buddha smiled as he watched them depart, knowing that the seeds of his teaching had taken root in their hearts, and that in time, they would bear the fruits of deep and enduring friendships, blessed with the seven qualities of a true friend.

Link: https://wisdomtea.org/2024/09/05/a-friend/