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My Father Before Me — The Unspoken Bond Between Fathers and Sons

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There are few relationships as powerful—and as quietly transformative—as the one between a father and a son. Yet in modern life, it’s often overlooked. We talk about mothers and children, but the emotional depth between fathers and sons remains one of the least explored terrains of the human heart.

In My Father Before Me: How Fathers and Sons Influence Each Other Throughout Their Lives, psychoanalyst Michael J. Diamond takes us into that emotional landscape with remarkable sensitivity. Through vivid stories, psychological insight, and tender reflection, he reveals how fathers and sons shape, challenge, and heal each other across a lifetime.

Most people think of fatherhood as a one-directional journey: the father influences the son. But Diamond turns that idea around. He shows that the father–son relationship is mutual, not hierarchical.

A father helps mold his son—but the son also transforms the father. Each becomes a mirror for the other’s hopes, fears, and hidden strengths.

Diamond writes about how fatherhood can awaken parts of a man he never knew existed. When a son is born, the father doesn’t just gain a child—he also gains a deeper understanding of himself. The baby’s presence demands patience, tenderness, and emotional openness. In nurturing another, the father learns to nurture himself.

Moments That Change Everything

Diamond fills the book with moving, relatable stories that show this mutual transformation.

One story tells of a man who, having grown up with a distant father, vows to be emotionally present for his own son. Yet when his son enters adolescence and begins to push back, the man feels rejected and hurt—just as he once felt with his own father. Through reflection, he realizes that this is his chance to break the cycle: to stay connected even when it’s uncomfortable. In doing so, both he and his son begin to heal wounds that stretch back generations.

In another example, a father describes watching his young son struggle to build a toy tower. His first instinct is to step in and fix it, but he resists. Instead, he watches quietly, offering small words of encouragement. When the tower finally stands, he sees not just his son’s triumph—but his own growth in learning to let go.

These moments, Diamond suggests, are not small. They are the foundation of how love, trust, and resilience are built between generations.

The Phases of the Father–Son Journey

Diamond explores how this relationship evolves through every stage of life:

  • Early Childhood: The father is a protector and guide, introducing the child to the outside world. But he also begins to sense his son’s individuality—someone both familiar and mysterious.
  • Adolescence: As the son seeks independence, conflict can arise. Here the father’s challenge is to stay connected without controlling—to allow the son to become his own person.
  • Adulthood: When the son grows up, both men must renegotiate their roles. Often, the adult son begins to understand his father with new empathy, and the father learns to accept his son as an equal.
  • Later Years: In time, roles may reverse—the son becomes the caregiver, the listener, the one offering strength. This reversal, Diamond suggests, completes the circle of life.

Through each phase, fathers and sons are constantly exchanging something precious: understanding, forgiveness, and love.

Redefining Masculinity

A core theme in My Father Before Me is emotional honesty. Diamond challenges old stereotypes of men as stoic and distant. True masculinity, he argues, is not about dominance or silence—it’s about being open, authentic, and emotionally present.

When a father shows vulnerability, it doesn’t make him weak—it makes him real. And when a son witnesses that authenticity, he learns that being a man means embracing both strength and tenderness.

In one memorable story, a son recalls seeing his father cry for the first time—after the death of the grandfather. “That day,” he says, “I stopped fearing emotion. I realized that love and grief are part of the same heart.”

A Relationship That Never Stops Evolving

Even when fathers and sons grow older, the dialogue between them continues. Diamond describes adult sons helping aging fathers find meaning and dignity in later life. Some reconcile after years of distance. Others simply learn to say what was once left unsaid: “I love you,” “I understand you,” or even “I forgive you.”

These late-life moments, he writes, can be profoundly healing. They remind us that it is never too late to reach across the years—to understand, to listen, and to love.

A Mirror for All of Us

Whether you’re a father, a son, or simply someone reflecting on your family history, My Father Before Me offers both insight and comfort. It reminds us that every father carries the echoes of his own father within him—and that every son, in turn, shapes what fatherhood will mean for the next generation.

Ultimately, Diamond’s message is one of hope: that through empathy, self-awareness, and courage, fathers and sons can support each other’s growth, forgive each other’s shortcomings, and honor the love that lies beneath it all.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2025/10/29/my-father-before-me-the-unspoken-bond-between-fathers-and-sons/

The Lesson of the Apple: How a Mother’s Words Shape a Child’s Life

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“A mother’s words can build a child—or break one.”

Recently, while reading a Chinese book on child education, I came across a story that deeply touched my heart. It perfectly illustrates how a mother’s attitude and behavior can influence a child’s entire life. I’d love to share this story with all mothers, as a gentle reminder of the quiet power we hold in shaping our children’s hearts and minds.

🍏 Two Letters, Two Lives

A famous American psychologist once conducted a fascinating study on the lifelong effects of early education. He selected 50 successful people from various fields—leaders, professionals, innovators—and 50 people with criminal records. He wrote to each of them, asking the same question:

“What influence did your mother have on you?”

Two of the replies left a lasting impression on him.
One came from a prominent White House official, the other from a prison inmate.
Surprisingly, both men spoke about the same childhood memory—their mother dividing apples.

🍎 The Prisoner’s Story: The Day He Learned to Lie

The prisoner wrote:

“When I was a child, my mother once brought home several apples—red, green, big, and small.
I immediately wanted the biggest, reddest one. Before I could speak, my little brother shouted, ‘I want the big one!’

My mother frowned and scolded him: ‘A good boy should learn to give the best to others.’

I quickly changed my words and said, ‘Mom, I’ll take the smallest one. Let my brother have the big one.’

My mother smiled proudly, kissed me on the cheek, and rewarded me with the biggest, reddest apple.”

He ended his letter with heartbreakingly honest words:

“That day, I learned that lying could bring rewards.
Later, I learned to cheat, to steal, to fight—anything to get what I wanted.
Today, I am in prison because of the lesson I learned that day.”

🍏 The White House Official’s Story: The Value of Effort

The second letter came from a White House official:

“When I was young, my mother brought home several apples, all different sizes. My brothers and I argued over who would get the biggest one.

Mother held up the largest apple and said, ‘Everyone wants the best, and that’s normal. So let’s have a little contest: I’ll divide the lawn into three sections. Whoever trims their section the fastest and neatest gets the big apple.’

We raced to finish, and I won the apple.”

He continued:

“From that day on, my mother taught us this simple but powerful truth:
If you want the best, you must earn it.

Everything good in our home had to be earned through effort and fairness. She lived by this principle herself. That’s how I learned discipline, persistence, and integrity—lessons that shaped my entire life.”

🌱 A Mother’s Words Are Seeds in a Child’s Heart

Both mothers divided apples.
Both children learned a lesson.
But one learned deception—while the other learned effort.

A mother’s reaction in a single moment, her tone of voice, or even a casual reward can plant seeds deep in a child’s heart.
Those seeds may grow into honesty and strength—or into cunning and selfishness.

Children mirror their mothers.
The way a mother faces life—whether with truth or pretense, effort or avoidance—becomes the way her child faces the world.

Education doesn’t always happen in grand lessons or classrooms.
Sometimes, it happens in small, everyday choices—like how we divide an apple, handle conflict, or teach fairness.

A wise mother uses love and insight to guide her child to understand that:

  • Honesty is more precious than cunning,
  • Effort is more reliable than shortcuts,
  • Sharing brings deeper joy than possessing.

These values, taught through simple acts, become the foundation of a child’s character.

Photo by Ivan Samkov on Pexels.com

A mother’s way of teaching doesn’t just shape a child’s childhood—it molds their destiny.
Every look, every word, every reaction writes silently into a child’s heart the story of who they will become.

May all mothers guide their children with both love and wisdom,
so that the lessons we leave behind are those of kindness, courage, and truth.

Because sometimes, all it takes is one apple—and one mother’s choice—to change a life forever.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2025/10/27/the-lesson-of-the-apple-how-a-mothers-words-shape-a-childs-life/

When the Flu Is Gone but Fatigue Remains: How to Help Your Immune System Truly Recover

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“Healing doesn’t end when the symptoms disappear — it ends when the body finally feels safe to rest.”

As the weather cools and flu season approaches, I came across some fascinating medical insights online that I felt were worth sharing with everyone reading my blog. Many of us have experienced this: the cold or flu seems gone, yet fatigue, throat irritation, or strange discomforts linger. Why does this happen, and how can we truly recover?

🧠 The Immune System Has a Memory—And Sometimes a Grudge

Doctors often hear this kind of complaint:

“My cold is gone, but I’m still exhausted. My throat feels weird, I get dizzy, and my stomach’s off…”

This isn’t because the virus remains—it’s because your immune system hasn’t fully stood down.

According to a 2025 review published in Cell Research, our immune system possesses something called trained immunity. That means it “remembers” past infections, stress, or inflammation. This helps it react faster next time—but sometimes, it overreacts.

It’s like your body has fought a war, and though the battle is over, the soldiers are still gripping their weapons, ready to defend at the slightest sound.

That’s why after you’ve “recovered,” you may still feel fatigued, have a scratchy throat, dry skin, or stomach issues. Your immune system is still in battle mode.

🦴 Memory Hidden in the Bone Marrow

This “memory” lives deep in your bone marrow stem cells, which remember intense inflammation and produce more reactive immune cells afterward.

In moderation, this keeps you alert to future threats. But under constant stress—lack of sleep, oily food, pollution, or anxiety—your immune system becomes overly vigilant.

Over time, this can cause chronic low-grade inflammation, leading to lingering tiredness, allergies, digestive issues, and even chronic diseases like diabetes or heart problems.

⚠️ When the Immune System Is Too Vigilant

The immune system is meant to react swiftly and then reset. But when it forgets how to relax, it starts misidentifying harmless things as threats.

You might notice:

  • Sore throats that flare up with stress
  • Headaches or bloating after emotional tension
  • Skin or gut reactions after eating sweets or processed food

These are signs of an overtrained immune system—one that’s too loyal for its own good.

🌼 How to Help Your Immune System “Let Go”

The best medicine isn’t a pill—it’s how you live every day. Here are four gentle ways to guide your immune system back to balance:

1. Eat for Calm, Not Chaos

Skip high-fat, high-sugar, and processed foods that fuel inflammation.
Instead, try a Mediterranean-style diet—fresh vegetables, fruits, olive oil, nuts, fish, and whole grains.
These nourish your immune cells and teach them to stay calm.

2. Sleep: The Reset Button

Sleep resets immune memory. Without enough rest, bone marrow cells stay in high-alert mode.
A regular sleep schedule is like a classroom where your body learns order and recovery.

3. Manage Stress Gently

Emotions like anxiety, anger, and loneliness all affect immunity.
Take time for deep breathing, sunlight, music, or quiet moments. Even doing nothing helps your body hear the message: “It’s safe now.”

4. Move, Don’t Push

Moderate aerobic exercise trains your immune system to respond wisely.
Studies show that people who move regularly—three to five times a week—have stronger, steadier immunity and less fatigue.

🌸 True Health Is Intelligent Immunity

Many believe “strong immunity” means “never getting sick.”
But true health means having an intelligent immune system—one that knows when to fight and when to rest.

So if you’ve recently recovered from a cold but still feel drained, don’t worry. Your body isn’t weak—it’s simply learning how to relax after the storm.

Be patient and kind to yourself.
Eat well, sleep deeply, breathe freely, and move with ease.
That heavy, lingering fatigue will soon melt away.

Because your body remembers not just pain—it also remembers peace.

Your body’s memory is a diary of your life.
When you fill your days with calm, warmth, and balance, your immune system learns to trust again.
And in that trust, you don’t just recover from illness—you truly return to health.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2025/10/24/when-the-flu-is-gone-but-fatigue-remains-how-to-help-your-immune-system-truly-recover/

To see the Love in all beings is to Awaken the Compassion in ourselves

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The Tears of a Mother Fox

This is a true story, personally recounted by a monk.

He said that before he became a monk, he was a hunter, specializing in capturing foxes. One day, he caught a large fox as soon as he left home. After skinning it for its valuable fur, he left the animal—still barely alive—hidden in the grass.

By evening, when the hunter returned to retrieve the fox, it was gone. Looking more carefully, he noticed faint traces of blood on the ground, leading toward a small cave nearby.

Peering inside, he was stunned by what he saw: the fox, in excruciating pain and skinned alive, had struggled back to its den. Why?

When the hunter dragged out the now lifeless body, he discovered two tiny, blind cubs tightly suckling their dead mother’s withered breast.

The sight struck him to his very core. Never before had he realized that animals, too, share the same bonds of maternal love as humans. Even in her dying moments, the mother fox had thought only of feeding her children, afraid they would go hungry. At that realization, an overwhelming wave of grief, shame, and remorse consumed him. He was devastated, unable to forgive himself.

From that moment, he laid down his weapons, abandoned hunting, and chose the path of monastic life.

Many years later, whenever this monk recalled that experience, his eyes would still well up with tears.

The Selfless Leap: A Lesson from the Bharal

There are moments in life when a single experience reshapes the way we see the world forever. The extraordinary sacrifice of animals that opened a hunter’s heart and made him vow never again to take a life.

It happened during a hunt many years ago. Our party had driven a herd of more than sixty bharal—also known as blue sheep—to the edge of a cliff on Mount Bulang. The plan was cruel but simple: trap them on the precipice, and force them to fall to their deaths so we wouldn’t waste bullets.

The herd panicked, but then something astonishing happened. At the sound of a cry from a large male, the bharal divided themselves into two groups—young and old. Out of the elders stepped a weathered male, his horns broken, his face lined with age. He bleated once, and a half-grown bharal emerged from the younger group to join him.

Together they approached the cliff’s edge, then charged forward. The young one leapt first, soaring into the abyss, but it quickly began to fall. At that very moment, the old male followed, placing himself directly beneath the younger in midair. The youth’s hooves struck the elder’s back, using it as a springboard for a second leap. Miraculously, it landed safely on the opposite cliff.

The old one, having given all he had, plummeted to his death.

And then, pair after pair followed. The sky above the gorge was filled with arcs of courage—each elder laying down its life so a younger one might live. By the end, countless old bharal lay broken on the rocks, but the youth had crossed to safety.

I was stunned beyond words. At the edge of extinction, this herd had discovered a way to save itself—by sacrificing half to preserve half. But what shook me even more was not the strategy itself, but the spirit behind it. These elders did not resist, did not hesitate. They walked calmly toward death, offering their bodies so their children might have a future.

In that moment, my heart broke open. I realized that animals, too, embody wisdom, love, and a willingness to sacrifice that rivals, and perhaps even surpasses, our own. I could no longer see them as mere prey. That day, I made a vow: I would never again take life.

✨ The story of the bharal is more than just a tale of survival. It is a mirror for us as human beings. Would we, when faced with the survival of our families, communities, or world, have the courage to lay ourselves down for the next generation? Would we live not only for ourselves, but for those who come after us?

The bharal taught me that true strength is not in holding on, but in letting go—for love. And from that lesson, my heart turned toward compassion.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2025/09/12/to-see-the-love-in-all-beings-is-to-awaken-the-compassion-in-ourselves/

5 Morning Affirmations to Begin Your Day with Peace and Strength

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This morning, I stumbled upon a truly inspiring video—one that I feel compelled to share. It’s about something simple yet deeply powerful: the words we choose to tell ourselves at the start of each day.

The video introduces five morning affirmations—phrases rooted in mindfulness, gratitude, and self-compassion. These words are not just reminders; they are seeds we plant in our hearts. By repeating them daily, we can replace anxiety with calm, transform doubt into confidence, and begin our day already centered in peace.

Here are the affirmations:

  1. I am here, I am alive. This moment is enough.
  2. Nothing outside me can disturb my peace unless I let it.
  3. I will treat myself with kindness, not judgment.
  4. Everything I need is already within me.
  5. Let me be the cause of peace today.

These may seem like simple sentences, yet they carry thousands of years of wisdom. Buddhist teachings remind us that the mind shapes our reality. When we begin each day with thoughts of peace, compassion, and self-respect, we set the tone for everything that follows.

What I love most is the last affirmation: “Let me be the cause of peace today.” Imagine the ripple effect if each of us carried this intention into our daily lives—peace would not just be something we seek, but something we create and share.

The words we tell ourselves each morning truly have the power to shape a lifetime of peace and wisdom.

✨ I wish everyone who watches this video peace, clarity, and growth on their journey. May these affirmations bring light to your mornings and strength to your days.

🌸 Why not give it a try? For the next seven mornings, say these affirmations to yourself before you start your day. Notice how they shift your mood, your focus, and even the way you interact with others. If you feel inspired, share your experience—it might just encourage someone else to begin their own journey of mindful mornings.

Link: https://peacelilysite.com/2025/09/12/5-morning-affirmations-to-begin-your-day-with-peace-and-strength/

Finding the Rose Among the Thorns

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In this unstable world, it sometimes feels as if my heart is on a rollercoaster whenever I turn on the TV or scroll through the news. Fear, anger, and uncertainty seem to dominate the headlines. Yet a few days ago, I came across a powerful teaching from Hopi Indian Chief White Eagle that lifted my spirit and gave me a new way of looking at things.

He said:

“This moment humanity is experiencing can be seen as a door or a hole. The decision to fall in the hole or walk through the door is up to you. If you consume the news 24 hours a day, with negative energy, constantly nervous, with pessimism, you will fall into this hole.

But if you take the opportunity to look at yourself, to rethink life and death, to take care of yourself and others, then you will walk through the portal.

Take care of your home, take care of your body. Connect with your spiritual home. When you take care of yourself, you take care of everyone at the same time.

…Resistance is resistance through joy! You have the right to be strong and positive. And there’s no other way to do it than to maintain a beautiful, happy, bright posture.

When we cross the threshold, we have a new worldview because we faced our fears and difficulties. This is all you can do now:

– Serenity in the storm

– Keep calm, pray everyday

– Make a habit of meeting the sacred everyday.

…Show resistance through art, joy, trust and love.”

These words made me pause and reflect. They reminded me that no matter how chaotic the outside world may appear, the choice of how we respond rests within us. We can drown in fear, or we can step through the door into growth, healing, and a deeper connection with life.

The truth is, this world is neither purely rosy nor entirely thorny. A rose, soft and fragrant, blooms on a stem covered with sharp thorns. The beauty does not erase the thorns, and the thorns do not diminish the rose. Both exist together.

An optimist may see only the rose, while a pessimist sees only the thorns. But a realist recognizes that life is always both—the blessings and the hardships, the joys and the sorrows. Wisdom is learning to admire the rose without being blinded by it, and respecting the thorns without being wounded by them.

Chief White Eagle’s message is a reminder that resilience comes not from denial or despair, but from balance—from facing reality with serenity, caring for ourselves and others, and finding joy even amid trials. When we do this, we not only endure the storm—we walk through the door into a brighter, more compassionate world.

Link: https://peacelilysite.com/2025/09/10/finding-the-rose-among-the-thorns/

Raising Successful Kids

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I’ve studied over 200 kids—here are 6 ‘magic phrases’ that make children listen to their parents

Reem Raouda, Contributor Published Sun, Aug 31 20259:35 AM EDT

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Parents are constantly searching for ways to get their kids to listen. But a lot of us focus too much on trying to get them to obey in the moment, rather than building genuine long-term cooperation.

I’ve studied over 200 parent-child relationships, and I’m a mother myself. I’ve learned that kids listen best when they feel connected. A big part of that is emotional safety: knowing they are respected and have the freedom to express their feelings.

Here are six magic phrases that calm a child’s nervous system and make cooperation feel natural, which is the real secret to getting them to listen.

1. ‘I believe you.’

The moment kids feel doubted (“Did you really mean to do that?”), their defenses go up. They shift from connection into self-protection.

Belief defuses shame and creates safety. When a child feels safe, they can actually hear you.

Example:

Child: “I didn’t spill the juice on purpose!”

Parent: “I believe you. Let’s clean it up together.”

You’re addressing the behavior without getting into an argument.

2. ‘Let’s figure this out together.’

The situation often turns into a standoff when there’s a parent just barking orders. But when kids help solve the problem, they’re more likely to stick to the solution.

Example:

Child refuses to clean up toys.

Parent: “I see you don’t want to clean everything now. Let’s figure this out together. What’s the first step?”

You’re still holding the boundary while preventing power struggles.

3. ‘You can feel this. I’m right here.’

When kids are overwhelmed, they’re in survival mode and logic doesn’t land. Their nervous system is in fight-or-flight, and they need help regulating their emotions. This phrase validates their feelings and assures them they’re not alone, which helps them reset.

Example:

Preschooler has a meltdown when their tower of blocks fall. Instead of “Stop crying, you’re overreacting,” say: “You can feel this. I’m right here.”

You’re letting the wave of emotions pass until they’re ready to re-engage.

4. ‘I’m listening. Tell me what’s going on.’

Before a child will listen to you, they need to feel heard. This simple shift of giving attention before demanding it dissolves resistance. When kids feel understood, they stop trying to push back.

Example:

Child: “I’m never playing with my brother again!”

Parent: “I’m listening. Tell me what’s going on.”

Now you’re uncovering the deeper hurt behind the anger, and that’s the part you can address to help repair both the relationship and the behavior.

5. ‘I hear you. I’m on your side.’

Many meltdowns escalate because kids feel misunderstood or in conflict with the very person they need most. This phrase instantly shifts you from adversary to ally, lowering defenses and opening the door to problem-solving.

Example:

Child: “This homework is stupid! I’m not doing it.”

Parent: “I hear you. I’m on your side. Let’s find a way to make this easier.”

Knowing you’re there to help changes the tone entirely. They’ll be far more likely to meet you halfway.

6. ‘I’ve got you, no matter what.’

Mistakes can trigger shame. But when kids hear this phrase, they learn that love isn’t conditional on performance or perfection.

Example:

Your child breaks a classmate’s project and calls you in tears.

Instead of lecturing, you say: “I’ve got you, no matter what. We’ll make it right together.”

That’s the difference between fear-based compliance and real accountability.  

I always tell parents that if their default is yelling or threatening, then no “magic phrase” will undo the deeper pattern. But when you regularly protect your child’s dignity, make them feel safe, and follow through on boundaries, listening becomes the natural outcome.

Source: https://www.cnbc.com/2025/08/31/child-psychologist-parents-who-raise-kids-who-listen-use-6-magic-phrases.html

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2025/09/10/raising-successful-kids/

Louise Hay: From Pain to Healing, From Healing to Helping the World

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There are some people whose presence feels like sunlight—warm, gentle, and full of hope. Louise Hay was one of them. An internationally renowned spiritual teacher, best-selling author, and pioneer of the self-help movement, she inspired millions of people around the world to believe in their own healing power. Her landmark book You Can Heal Your Life has sold over 50 million copies in 35 countries, translated into 29 languages, and for many, it sits by the bedside as a trusted guide through life’s storms.

To the world, Louise Hay seemed perfect—healthy, elegant, wise, always radiating grace. Her teachings lifted countless people out of despair, helped them restore their health, and gave them courage to live again. Media across the globe lovingly called her “the closest person to a saint.”

But what made Louise extraordinary was not that her life was flawless—it was that she transformed the deepest wounds into the greatest gifts. Behind her radiant presence was a childhood filled with suffering, abuse, and neglect. It was from that very pain that she forged the wisdom that changed the lives of millions.

1. Falling Amid Misfortune

When Louise was just 18 months old, her parents divorced, abruptly ending her once-happy family life.

At that time, women had little social standing. After the divorce, her mother could only work as a maid to survive, while Louise was sent to live in foster care.

At age five, her mother remarried in the hope of giving Louise a complete home. But this marked the beginning of her nightmare.

Louise was raped by a neighbor, abused and assaulted by her stepfather, and subjected to violence and sexual exploitation. These experiences left her with deep wounds and a lack of self-worth. In her teenage years, as long as a man showed her the slightest kindness, she would give herself to him. By the age of sixteen, she had already given birth to a daughter.

Her childhood was filled with tragedy, and her youth with self-destruction. Those early wounds shaped her into someone who did not know how to love herself.

Yet later in life, Louise chose not to remain trapped in resentment or regret. She said, “No little boy is born a predator, and no little girl is born a victim. These are learned behaviors shaped by childhood experiences.”

2. Awakening and Transformation

In her forties, Louise was diagnosed with cancer. That moment became her wake-up call. She realized how little she had cared for her own body, and she resolved to change.

Instead of following the conventional treatment suggested by her doctors, she turned to what she called “holistic healing.” Within six months, her cancer had disappeared.

Holistic healing, as Louise practiced it, meant changing destructive thought patterns and adopting healthier eating habits. She stopped mourning her unhappy past and stopped blaming her parents. Instead, she came to understand their own painful childhoods.

During her recovery, she ate mostly sprouts and simple natural foods, avoiding processed products entirely. She also trained her mind daily—using positive affirmations, choosing not to let negative emotions dominate her, and seeing every situation through a more uplifting perspective.

Her life changed completely. She documented her experiences and insights in books, which went on to inspire millions and transform countless lives.

3. You Can Choose Your Own Destiny

There are many in this world who have been hurt or are still suffering. Their stories move us deeply.

But as an old Chinese saying goes, “Those who seem pitiable often have traits that make them vulnerable.” In truth, much of life’s suffering continues because, consciously or unconsciously, we allow it. And the root often lies in our formative years.

Take, for example, teenage pregnancies. While news headlines may highlight shocking cases, the majority stem not from coercion but from lack of self-respect or proper knowledge. Similarly, many women trapped in abusive relationships remain because they lack self-worth and the courage to leave.

We cannot rewrite our childhoods, but we can shape our adult lives. As Louise Hay wrote in You Can Heal Your Life: Mindfulness Edition:

“Every negative message you received as a child can be transformed into a positive affirmation.”

If you had an unhappy past, stop feeding yourself negative words. Begin telling yourself: I am worthy of love. I am needed. I have many strengths. I can live the life I choose.

And if doubt still lingers, look at Louise Hay’s journey. Few have endured the kind of suffering she did—yet she lived a life admired and envied by many. If she could, why not you?

In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete.

Life Is Really Very Simple. What We Give Out, We Get Back.  What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. I believe that everyone, myself included, is responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. Every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates our experiences by our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences.”

Her books may be called “chicken soup for the soul,” but isn’t that exactly what we need sometimes? A warm voice reminding us that we are enough, that healing is possible, and that life can be beautiful again.

You Can Heal Your Life walks us through every stage of existence—childhood pain, love’s struggles, career challenges, health worries, aging, and even the fear of death. Louise’s message is simple but powerful: change your beliefs, and you will change your life.

This “chicken soup” has comforted millions, given them strength, and helped them step into new beginnings.

💖 A Gentle Reminder

If you feel lost, unworthy, or stuck in a cycle of pain—Louise’s story is a light in the darkness. Her life teaches us that healing begins not from the outside, but from within.

No obstacle is too great. No past is too broken. Deep within each of us lies an infinite potential waiting to bloom. When we dare to change our thoughts and love ourselves, life unfolds in colors we never imagined.

Believe it: just like Louise Hay, you too can heal your life—and create a future filled with peace, love, and joy.

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Nobel Prize Research Reminds Us: Don’t Stay Up Late!

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When the 2017 Nobel Prize in Medicine was announced, many were surprised—it focused on something that touches all of us: our biological clock.

Three scientists—Jeffrey C. Hall, Michael Rosbash, and Michael W. Young—received the award for discovering how our bodies keep time at the molecular level. In simple terms, they revealed how our “internal clock” works, and why disrupting it can be so damaging to our health.

This clock silently manages almost everything in the body—when we feel sleepy or alert, our body temperature, hormone levels, and even how our cells repair themselves. But when we stay up too late, this delicate system is thrown off balance, and the consequences can be serious.

Their research found that:

  • Staying up late disrupts the body clock, paving the way for illness.
  • Lack of sleep can cause the brain to “eat itself”—astrocytes, specialized brain cells, begin devouring synapses.
  • If circadian-regulating genes fail, the risk of tumors increases.

The clear takeaway from this Nobel Prize-winning research? A familiar piece of advice: Don’t stay up late!

Yes, it’s something our parents, teachers, and elders have reminded us about countless times. But now, there’s a Nobel Prize—and 9 million Swedish kronor —to back it up.

Ancient Wisdom Meets Modern Science

Interestingly, the idea of the “body clock” isn’t new. Thousands of years ago, Traditional Chinese Medicine described how energy, or Qi, flows through the body in cycles. The 24-hour day was divided into twelve two-hour intervals, with each period linked to a specific organ system.

For example:

  • Between 1 a.m. and 3 a.m., the liver is at peak function, cleansing the blood and preparing the body for renewal.
  • From 3 a.m. onward, energy shifts to organs that support digestion and daily activity, such as the lungs, large intestine, and stomach.
  • By mid-afternoon, energy begins to flow inward again to support organs that restore and maintain the system, such as the kidneys and pericardium.

Understanding this Body-Energy Clock can help us better manage our sleep, meals, and mood. Modern science now echoes this ancient wisdom: align with your natural rhythms, and you’ll thrive.

The Role of Melatonin

Science also tells us about melatonin, often called the “sleep hormone.” Melatonin is vital for regulating the sleep-wake cycle. Levels begin to rise soon after darkness falls, peak between 2 a.m. and 4 a.m., and then gradually decline.

This explains why going to bed too late often leads to trouble falling asleep, and why sleep after 4 a.m. tends to be light and restless. For the best rest, it’s ideal to sleep between 11 p.m. and 4 a.m., when melatonin levels are highest and most restorative.

The Benefits of Sleeping Early and Rising Early

Research consistently shows that early sleepers and early risers enjoy powerful health benefits:

  • Better mental health: Early risers of all ages report more positive emotions and greater self-rated health.
  • Reduced risk of depression: A U.S. study found that going to bed just one hour earlier lowers depression risk by 23%.
  • Weight management: Staying up late disrupts hormones, leading to weight gain. Going to bed on time, combined with early rising and regular exercise, helps maintain a healthy weight.
  • Stronger immunity: Adequate sleep enhances immune function, reducing the risk of infections and chronic diseases such as heart disease, hypertension, diabetes, and stroke.
  • Sharper thinking: Early sleepers and early risers score 30% higher on word-association tests compared to night owls.

The message from both Nobel Prize-winning research and ancient health wisdom is clear: respect your biological clock.

Going to bed early and waking up early is not just about feeling more refreshed—it protects the brain, strengthens the body, improves mood, and may even add years to your life. So tonight, give yourself the gift of sleep—it’s worth more than 5 million!

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The Season of Prevention: Natural Ways to Protect Your Home as Pests Move Indoors

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By Daniel Fusch Contributor

As summer gives way to cooler days and longer nights, a subtle but critical seasonal shift begins inside homes. While many homeowners are busy with back-to-school routines, seasonal cleaning, and the return of structured schedules, rodents and other pests are also preparing to move indoors. As outdoor temperatures drop, these creatures instinctively seek warmth, shelter, and reliable food sources, making people’s homes a prime target. 

Mice and rats are triggered by the shortening daylight and cooling nights, prompting them to search for secure nesting spots. Attics, basements, garages, and wall voids provide ideal zones. By the time the first frost hits, an unnoticed breach in a home can easily turn into a full-blown infestation. “Preventative action in late summer or early fall isn’t only smarter, it’s less stressful and costly than trying to control a problem after it has taken hold,” says Scott deMoulin, CEO of EarthKind, a company dedicated to safe, non-toxic pest prevention. 

This time of the year offers a valuable opportunity for what many refer to as a “home reset.” Much like the fresh start mentality that accompanies the school year, this seasonal rhythm can include natural pest prevention as a key part of household wellness and preparation. However, what does natural prevention actually look like in practice?

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EarthKind believes it begins with exclusion. Investing time to seal off entry points around the home is critical. Common access areas include the garage, foundation cracks, utility line entries, attic vents, and dryer exhausts. These often-overlooked gaps act as open doors for rodents, especially when cooler weather sets in. Sealing with durable materials such as steel wool, caulk, mesh screening, or rodent-proofing foam can dramatically reduce the likelihood of unwanted visitors. 

Second, food accessibility must be addressed. Rodents don’t need much to survive. They only need a few crumbs and a place to hide. Hence, kitchens and pantries must be kept meticulously clean. Items like grains, cereal, and pet food should be stored in airtight containers made from glass or thick plastic. In addition, dishes shouldn’t be left overnight. “A clean kitchen is a rodent-free kitchen,” deMoulin emphasizes. 

Unknown to many, moisture is also an attractant. Pests thrive in damp environments, which offer both hydration and shelter. Leaky pipes under sinks, humid basements, and clogged gutters are all red flags. “Think of leaks as an open invitation to pests,” says deMoulin. “Fixing leaks promptly and using dehumidifiers or ventilation in moisture-prone areas can greatly reduce pest survival rates.” 

Finally, outdoor maintenance shouldn’t be neglected. Overgrown shrubbery, piled leaves, and clutter near the home provide perfect hiding spots for pests to stage their invasion. Regularly trimming vegetation, clearing debris, and keeping firewood away from exterior walls creates a hostile perimeter for pests.  

What happens when you do the right things, and pests still find their way in? This is where EarthKind’s product line bridges the gap between prevention and peace of mind. The company’s Fresh Cab Rodent Repellent is a botanical-based pouch designed to repel mice using a blend of plant fibers and essential oils like balsam fir. It’s crafted for those who want results without harsh chemicals or messy cleanup and may last much longer.

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EarthKind’s pest control products can integrate seamlessly into natural routines. They can be placed under sinks, in attics, garages, storage closets, and in other areas prone to pest activity. “There’s no killing, no cleanup, and no fear of pets or children accidentally encountering harmful substances,” deMoulin states.  

This philosophy reflects EarthKind’s goal to make every home pest-free without compromise. Founded by Kari Warberg Block, who witnessed firsthand the dangers of conventional pesticides on her North Dakota farm, EarthKind emerged from a desire to harmonize human safety with ecological responsibility.  

Consumers today are increasingly seeking alternatives to toxic pest control, and EarthKind answers that call through its products and a shift in mindset. Scott deMoulin remarks, “Home protection is about cultivating a safe, healthy living space with intention, and it starts with proactive prevention.” 

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Source: https://www.usatoday.com/story/special/contributor-content/2025/07/29/the-season-of-prevention-natural-ways-to-protect-your-home-as-pests-move-indoors/85425732007/