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You’ll Never Guess Why He Survived”?

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At late Qing Dynasty, during the reign of Emperor Guangxu, there was a true story that took place:

Mr. Jia from Jiangsu worked for a foreign trading company in the Shanghai concession. He had earned the deep trust of his employer. Just before the Dragon Boat Festival, his boss sent him south of the city to collect debts. With a leather money pouch in hand, Mr. Jia set off.

The collections went smoothly, and by noon he had received more than 1,800 silver dollars. After walking and talking all morning, he was parched and exhausted. Passing by the famous Shiliupu teahouse, he hurried inside for a quick cup of tea before rushing back to deliver the money and finally rest.

When he returned to the company, he suddenly realized—the leather pouch was gone. Thunderstruck, drenched in sweat, and nearly fainting, he could not explain himself clearly in his panic.

Seeing his flustered state, the boss grew suspicious, believing Jia might be dishonest. He harshly rebuked him for betraying trust, warning that if the money was not returned quickly, Jia would be handed over to the authorities.

At that time, 1,800 silver dollars was a fortune—enough for a person to live on comfortably for a lifetime if carefully spent. How could Mr. Jia ever repay such a sum? With his reputation and life on the line, he felt utterly ruined and broke down in despair.

Meanwhile, in another part of the concession, a merchant from Pudong, surnamed Yi, had recently lost all his money in business. Discouraged, he bought a boat ticket for that very afternoon to return home across the river.

With time to spare before boarding, Mr. Yi also went to Shiliupu teahouse, intending to sip tea slowly while pondering his uncertain future.

By coincidence, just as Mr. Jia had hurried out, Mr. Yi walked in. As he sat down, he noticed a small leather pouch left on a chair. He paid it little mind at first and began drinking tea.

After some time, no one came to claim it. Curious, he lifted it and felt its weight. Opening it, he nearly dropped it in shock—inside was a fortune in gleaming silver coins!

At first he was overwhelmed with joy. Such a windfall could end his misfortune and secure a comfortable life. But then he thought: No, money belongs to its rightful owner. If I keep it, the loser may be ruined, disgraced, or even driven to death. The sin would be unbearable.

In those days, most decent people knew the saying: “Ill-gotten wealth must not be taken.” Mr. Yi resolved: Since fate placed this money in my hands, I have the responsibility to return it.

At lunchtime, only eight or nine guests remained in the teahouse. None appeared to be searching for lost money, so Yi, hungry as he was, decided to keep waiting.

By evening, as lamps were being lit, the teahouse emptied out—only Mr. Yi remained, watching the entrance intently.

Suddenly, he saw a pale, staggering man rush in, followed by two companions. It was Mr. Jia. As soon as he entered, Jia pointed at Yi’s table and cried, “There! That’s where I was sitting!” The three came straight toward Yi.

Yi smiled and asked, “Are you looking for a lost pouch?”

Jia stared in disbelief and nodded repeatedly. “I’ve been waiting for you,” Yi said, producing the leather pouch.

Overcome with relief, Jia trembled all over. “You are my savior! Without you, I would have hanged myself tonight!”

It turned out that when Jia had discovered the loss, he had begged to retrace his steps, though he knew recovery was unlikely. His boss, fearing he might flee, initially forbade it. After much pleading, the boss finally allowed him to go, but only under the close watch of two escorts, who were ordered to bring him back regardless of the outcome.

After exchanging names, Jia gratefully offered Yi a fifth of the money as a reward. Yi firmly refused. Jia lowered it to a tenth, then to a hundredth—Yi grew angry and sternly declined.

Flustered, Jia said, “Then at least let me treat you to a drink!” Yi still refused. Finally Jia pleaded, “If I cannot show gratitude, my conscience will not rest. Tomorrow morning, please allow me to host you at such-and-such tavern. I beg you to come—without fail.” Bowing deeply, he left.

The next morning, Yi did indeed appear. Jia was just about to bow in thanks when Yi quickly interrupted, saying:

“Actually, it is I who should thank you. If not for your lost pouch, I would not be alive today!”

Puzzled, Jia asked what he meant. Yi explained:

“Yesterday, I had bought a one o’clock boat ticket to return home. But because I waited in the teahouse to return your money, I missed the departure. When I finally returned to my lodging, I learned that the boat had capsized midway in a violent wave. All 23 passengers drowned. Had I boarded, I too would be dead. So you see, it was you who saved my life!”

The two men, overwhelmed, bowed to each other in tears.

Onlookers marveled, toasting the pair. They said Mr. Yi’s single good deed had saved not just Jia’s life, but his own as well.

The story did not end there. When Jia and his escorts returned and reported everything, the boss was astonished. “Such a virtuous man is rare indeed!” he exclaimed, insisting on meeting Yi.

The two met and felt an immediate bond. After a long conversation, the boss earnestly invited Yi to stay, offering him a high salary to manage accounts. Months later, he even married Yi into his family as a son-in-law. In time, the boss entrusted the entire business to him.

“Cause and effect of good and evil” is absolutely true, without the slightest mistake. Goodness nurtures more goodness, and goodness attracts goodness. To treat others with kindness is, in fact, to accumulate blessings and good fortune for oneself. A human life is not lived for just a fleeting moment. The speed of temporary gains or losses, the ups and downs of a single day, even honor or disgrace in the short term—none of these truly matter. Today’s kindness becomes tomorrow’s blessings. Today’s evil leads to tomorrow’s misfortune. Time is a great author, and it will always write the perfect answer.

Therefore, simply be a good person, and the future will be full of hope. Do good deeds, and the road ahead will surely be bright and promising.

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The Power of the Mind: A Lesson from the Garden

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Peace Pilgrim once said, “If you knew how powerful your mind is, you would never think a negative thought.” That quote stayed with me, but I didn’t fully understand its truth until I experienced it for myself—right in my own backyard.

At one point, we lived in a house with a large backyard that inspired me to plant organic vegetables. I imagined harvesting fresh, healthy produce and enjoying the process of nurturing life from the soil. Eager and hopeful, I bought a few small tomato plants from Home Depot and began tending to them daily. Watching them grow brought me joy and anticipation—I could almost taste the sweet, juicy tomatoes I dreamed of.

But as the plants began to bloom and bear fruit, trouble arrived. Large, green caterpillars appeared overnight, chewing through leaves and fruit, threatening to destroy the entire garden. My husband was furious and would crush them on sight. Wanting to find a gentler solution, I turned to friends for advice. One of them recommended a non-toxic spray from an organic farm store. It worked like a glue, blocking the insect’s skin so they couldn’t breathe and would suffocate to death.

When I heard that, I felt a sharp, suffocating sensation through my own skin. I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t kill them—no matter how many tomatoes I might lose. These were living beings. Their lives mattered too. I decided then and there: I would not harm them.

And then, something remarkable happened.

The very next morning, my husband came to me in astonishment. “All the caterpillars are gone,” he said. “And there aren’t even any dead ones.” I went out to the garden. He was right. The insects had vanished without a trace.

Was it just a coincidence? I don’t believe so. I believe they sensed my compassion. I believe the power of a sincere, non-harming mind created a shift in energy that led to a quiet, unseen miracle.

Later, after I began studying Buddhism, I came to understand this experience on a deeper level. Through the Dharma transmitted by H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III, I learned the true meaning of the precept of “Not Killing.”

This teaching awakened a deeper sense of responsibility in me. I now strive to regard the suffering of all beings as my own, and I earnestly wish for every living being—my parents of infinite past lives—to live in harmony and peace.

I sincerely pray that all beings may enjoy happiness, good health, and abundant fortune. I constantly beseech all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas to bless them, to help them escape suffering, to encounter and practice the true Buddha-dharma, and ultimately to attain liberation from the cycle of birth and death.

This is not just a story about gardening. It is a story about the incredible power of our minds—and even more so, our hearts. When we choose compassion over destruction, mindfulness over impulse, miracles can happen.

Let kindness guide you. Let the power of your mind awaken something beautiful—not just in your life, but in the lives of all beings around you.

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The Lucky Table: A Story of Kindness, Chance, and Rebirth

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For over three long months, Danny’s small restaurant had been bleeding money. What once was a bustling little eatery with lines stretching out the door had fallen silent in the shadow of economic downturn. On this particular evening, after tallying up the accounts, Danny made a heavy decision: Tonight will be the restaurant’s last night.

It was supposed to be the dinner rush, yet only a father and his young son sat at a corner table, quietly sharing a single meal. The child fidgeted and whined, while the father, clearly tired and irritable, snapped for him to be quiet.

Then the door creaked open.

A man wearing a cap and an expression of weariness stepped into the restaurant. Danny greeted him with a smile, thinking, Perhaps he’s my last customer ever… why not go the extra mile for him? Though he didn’t have much to give, Danny decided to offer a small surprise that might brighten someone’s day.

The Lucky Table

After taking the man’s order, Danny returned with a cheerful announcement:
“Congratulations! You’ve been seated at tonight’s Lucky Table! Your entire meal is on the house — and we’re including a complimentary dessert!”

The man blinked in disbelief. “I can’t believe I’m this lucky!” he said, breaking into a smile for the first time.

As Danny brought out the dessert, the man’s demeanor softened.

At the neighboring table, the little boy stared wide-eyed at the sweet treat and tugged at his father’s sleeve, begging for one too. The father, flustered and embarrassed, muttered, “We don’t have money for that. Stop fussing.”

The man at the Lucky Table noticed. He turned to Danny and said, “I’d like to share my good fortune. Could you bring a dessert to that little boy as well?”

Danny nodded and delivered the dessert. The child’s face lit up, laughing and clapping in delight. Even the father, moments ago so downtrodden, managed a smile and walked over to thank the kind stranger.

That’s when the conversation began.

The two men sat and talked. The stranger introduced himself as Kurt, the owner of a small business. Curious, he asked the father what he did for a living.

The man looked down and said dejectedly, “I was a sales manager, but the company’s shutting down. They’ve asked me to stay only until the end of the month…”

Kurt paused. “Actually… I’m currently looking for someone with experience in sales. Would you be interested in coming in for an interview tomorrow?”

The father looked stunned. “Really? Of course — thank you!”

They set the appointment, and the spark of hope in the father’s eyes was unmistakable.

That night, moved by what had unfolded, Danny changed his mind. Maybe I’ll keep going a little longer, he thought. From that day forward, he introduced a daily tradition: each evening, one table would be chosen at random to be the Lucky Table — free meals, and a sprinkle of kindness.

Word spread.

Curious customers came to try their luck, and Danny’s restaurant slowly regained its warmth and energy. It wasn’t long before the once-empty tables were full again.

A Twist of Fate

Years passed, and Kurt became one of the restaurant’s most loyal patrons — and a close friend of Danny.

One evening, as they chatted over dinner, Kurt suddenly asked, “Danny, do you know what I was thinking the very first time I walked into this place?”

Danny shook his head.

Kurt looked down for a moment, then said quietly, “That night, I was planning to have a final meal before ending my life.”

Danny’s eyes widened in shock.

Kurt continued, his voice steady but soft. “That night, my wife left me. She wrote in a letter that she couldn’t take being ignored anymore — that she’d fallen in love with someone else. I was devastated. I felt worthless. I had nothing left to live for.”

He paused, then smiled faintly.

“But then… I sat at the Lucky Table. At first, I thought it was a cruel joke. But when I chose to share the dessert, and saw that little boy smile — something in me shifted. I realized that even in my broken state, I could still bring joy to someone else. That moment saved me. It reminded me that I wasn’t useless after all. And that was the beginning of rebuilding my life.”

Danny’s eyes welled with tears.

He realized that true luck isn’t something we wait for. It’s something we create — through kindness, selflessness, and the courage to give even when we ourselves feel empty.

That night, Danny understood: he, too, was one of the lucky ones.

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Kindness Is the Best Feng Shui

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Feng shui has long held a mysterious allure in Chinese traditional culture. For centuries, it has been highly respected and followed by many. Even in today’s modern society, interest in feng shui remains strong. From choosing a home to arranging furniture, people often seek out feng shui masters to predict their fortune or improve their luck. This enthusiasm has even spread beyond China, gaining popularity in many countries as a fashionable practice.

But have you ever wondered what kind of feng shui truly brings good fortune? The following story offers a fresh and enlightening perspective.

A wealthy man once bought a piece of land and built a luxurious villa. Because his wife loved lychees, he planted many lychee trees in the backyard. During the renovation, a friend suggested that he consult a feng shui master to ensure there were no negative formations. Though skeptical of feng shui, the wealthy man decided to give it a try and traveled to Hong Kong to invite a renowned master with over thirty years of experience.

After meeting the master at the train station and sharing lunch, they drove to the man’s home. Along the way, whenever another car tried to overtake them, the master noticed that the wealthy man would gently slow down and give way. “You’re a steady driver,” the master remarked.

The man smiled and replied, “Most of the people overtaking are probably in a hurry. I don’t want to hold them up.”

As they approached the town, the streets grew narrower, and the man slowed the car even more. Suddenly, a laughing child darted out from an alley. The man quickly hit the brakes. Instead of accelerating again, he kept watching the alley. Moments later, another child ran out, chasing the first.

“How did you know there was another child coming?” the master asked, surprised.

The man explained, “Kids always run in groups when playing. One laughing child usually means others are nearby.”

The master gave him a thumbs-up and said with a smile, “You’re very thoughtful.”

When they arrived at the villa, just as the man was about to unlock the door, several birds suddenly flew up from the backyard. He turned to the master and said, “Please wait a moment.”

“Is something wrong?” the master asked.

“There are probably children in the yard stealing lychees. If we go in now, they’ll panic. If they fall while trying to run, they might get hurt. Let’s give them a bit more time. We can wait here and let them enjoy the fruit.”

The master stood in silence for a while, then said, “Take me back to the train station. There’s no need to examine the feng shui of your house.”

The man was puzzled. “Why, Master?”

The master looked at him and said sincerely, “Wherever you are, that place already has the best feng shui.”

This story opens our eyes to a deeper truth: the most powerful feng shui isn’t found in the placement of objects or the direction of a door — it’s found within us. Our behavior, compassion, and moral integrity shape the energy we bring into the world.

Everyone desires good fortune and happiness, but many look for it in the wrong places. Some rely solely on feng shui arrangements or fortune tellers, hoping for shortcuts to a better life. But these are often just psychological comforts, lacking true substance.

The law of cause and effect governs all things: “Plant good causes to reap good results; avoid bad causes to prevent misfortune.” Only by performing good deeds and cultivating a kind heart can we attract blessings and peace. Relying purely on external feng shui while ignoring inner morality goes against this fundamental principle.

In truth, our actions and intentions are our personal feng shui. Kindness is the most powerful feng shui one can have.

As the saying goes: “A fortunate person lives in a fortunate place, and a fortunate place is inhabited by a fortunate person.” Here, “fortunate person” means someone with a kind and upright heart. A person’s energy — their “magnetic field” — reflects their character. Even the best feng shui cannot save someone with selfish or harmful intent, while a good-hearted person can transform even a less-than-ideal environment into a space of warmth and harmony.

When we live with compassion and integrity, we naturally draw good karma, success, and joy into our lives. At that point, we no longer need to search for feng shui — we are the feng shui.

Kindness is the best feng shui. May we all cultivate it from within.

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The Weight of Words: A Story That Reminds Us to Speak Wisely

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Once upon a time in a small village, an old man spread a rumor that his neighbor was a thief. The accusation quickly circulated, and the young man was arrested. However, after a thorough investigation, the truth emerged—the young man was innocent. Though he was released, the damage had already been done. As he walked home, shame and humiliation clung to him like a heavy shadow. In pain and frustration, he took the old man to court for defamation.

In court, the old man defended himself, saying, “They were just comments. I didn’t mean any real harm.”

The judge paused and then said, “Before I pass judgment, I want you to do something. Write down everything you said about this young man on a piece of paper. Then cut the paper into small pieces, and on your way home, scatter them to the wind. Tomorrow, return for your sentence.”

The old man did as he was told. The next day, he stood before the judge once again.

“Before I deliver your sentence,” the judge said, “go out and gather every piece of paper you threw away yesterday.”

“But that’s impossible!” the old man protested. “The wind has carried them far and wide—I’ll never be able to get them all back.”

The judge nodded gravely. “Exactly. Just like those pieces of paper, your careless words have been scattered beyond recall. A few simple comments have the power to destroy a person’s honor and reputation—damage that can be nearly impossible to undo.”

The old man bowed his head in shame and asked for forgiveness.

This story speaks to a deep truth: our words, once spoken, can never be fully taken back.

Benjamin Franklin once said, “Fool’s hearts are in their mouths; wise men’s mouths are in their hearts.” These timeless words caution us against speaking recklessly. A wise person thinks carefully before they speak—choosing words with care, filtering emotion through understanding, and weighing their potential impact. Such restraint not only prevents misunderstandings and harm but also reflects emotional maturity and compassion.

Think more. Speak less.

In Buddhist teachings, this idea is beautifully echoed through the precepts on right speech. Practitioners are taught to be mindful of their word karma and to avoid four kinds of harmful speech:

  1. Lying
  2. Harsh speech
  3. Divisive speech
  4. Idle chatter

Each of these can sow seeds of suffering—for others and for ourselves.

Let’s remind ourselves daily: Be the master of your mouth, so you’re not a slave to your words.

Gossip can be more damaging than theft—it steals a person’s dignity, honor, and credibility, none of which are easy, or even possible, to restore. A wise saying puts it well: “When your feet slip, you can recover your balance. But when your tongue slips, you can never recover your words.”

Let us choose silence over harm, kindness over carelessness, and wisdom over impulse. Because our words, like our actions, carry the power to build—or break—the world around us.

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A Life Well-Loved: Finding Strength in Softness and Wisdom in Time

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After more than fifty years of experiencing life’s ups and downs, I have finally come to understand the profound importance of quieting down, reflecting, and learning how to truly love myself. It is only through self-love that we can genuinely love others.

“When I truly began to love myself, I started going to bed earlier and learned to enjoy exercise. I stopped getting lost in worries and anxieties. Instead, I became confident and pursued meaningful people and endeavors with passion. That was the moment my life truly began.”

Understanding another person is never easy. We must walk in their shoes, see the world through their eyes, and consider life from their perspective. Yet, this journey often brings sadness. But in that sadness, we discover clarity—we learn to focus on what truly matters.

Rather than wasting our time on trivial concerns and unfulfilling distractions, we should devote ourselves to nourishing pursuits: sleep, books, exercise, the beauty of nature, and, above all, the love we have for the world. When we consciously take control of our time, the tranquility of daily life emerges naturally, and anxiety fades away.

Kahlil Gibran once said, “If one day you stop searching for love and simply love; stop yearning for success and just do; stop pursuing empty growth and begin to cultivate your character, then your life will truly begin.” This wisdom reminds us that authentic living starts with our inner transformation.

Loving yourself means understanding that pain and emotional turmoil are often just reminders to live authentically. Unless it stems from physical illness, much of our suffering comes from misplaced values rather than objective reality. The things we cling to the most are often the very things that torment us, while those beyond our control are simply not worth our distress. True wisdom lies in knowing when to hold on and when to let go.

To be nurtured by others is a gift; to nurture others is an even greater act of cultivation.

May we have eyes that shine like stars, hearts as vast as the ocean, and lives that leave behind the fragrance of kindness wherever we go.

The Wisdom of Middle Age

Middle age teaches us the value of patience, restraint, and measured action. In our youth, we often equate eloquence with intelligence, only to later realize that true wisdom often lies in silence. As W. Somerset Maugham observed, “In a crowd, the quietest person is often the most powerful.”

In conversations, we should not rush to take center stage. Instead, we should listen more and speak less, exercising the grace of restraint. When others share, let us resist the urge to interrupt. When disagreements arise, let us not hastily refute. Instead of saying, “I think,” we can ask, “What do you think?” Instead of declaring, “You are wrong,” we can offer, “Perhaps there is another way to see this.” By replacing subjective judgment with open-minded awareness, we foster deeper understanding.

The world is not simply black and white. By speaking a beat slower and thinking a step faster, we cultivate clarity and wisdom in our lives.

In psychology, there is a concept called task separation: our emotions are our responsibility, while others’ reactions belong to them. The wisdom of softness lies in maintaining a gentle boundary between the two. It allows us to be vulnerable and to accept imperfection in ourselves and others. Harsh confrontation often leads to conflict, but a simple, “I understand your difficulties,” can resolve tensions effortlessly. As Alfred Adler wisely said, “True strength lies in the courage to expose one’s vulnerabilities.”

Try shifting from “I must win” to “We can solve this together.” Instead of “Why don’t you understand me?” consider, “Perhaps I need to express myself differently.” Softness is not weakness—it is a space that allows relationships to breathe and grow.

Kazuo Inamori once said, “What you hold in your heart is what you will encounter.” True generosity is not about calculated acts of kindness but instinctive goodwill. A small gesture—carrying a neighbor’s trash, offering a sincere compliment, or leaving a light on for a loved one—creates ripples that spread far beyond our immediate reach.

A generous heart does not tally whether kindness is repaid. As the Tao Te Ching states, “The more you give to others, the more you have yourself.” Every act of warmth we extend ultimately enriches our own lives.

As we journey through middle age, wisdom is cultivated through restraint. In youth, we may be like strong liquor—bold and fiery; with time, we become like fine tea—subtle yet deeply enriching. Speaking slowly allows us to reflect, gentleness fosters harmonious relationships, and generosity ensures lasting blessings.

These qualities of slow cultivation cannot be rushed or feigned. But with daily practice and yearly dedication, we will come to embody the depth of the old adage: “Still waters run deep.”

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The Power of Karma: The Story of Princess Shanguang’s Virtuous Deeds

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During the time of Shakyamuni Buddha, King Prasenajit and his queen were devoted disciples of the Buddha. They had a beloved daughter named Shanguang, who was compassionate, kind-hearted, graceful, intelligent, gentle, and exceptionally wise. Despite her royal status, Shanguang remained humble and approachable, never flaunting her nobility, which earned her the love and admiration of the entire kingdom. The king and queen cherished their beautiful daughter, treating her like a precious gem.

One day, while walking in the royal garden with her father, King Prasenajit said, “Shanguang, the blessings you enjoy today are because of me, your father, the king.”

Shanguang gently replied, “That is not true, Father. My blessings come from my own virtuous deeds and karmic causes, not because of your royal status.”

This exchange occurred three times, with Shanguang steadfast in her belief. Her conviction angered the king, who felt she was ungrateful. Determined to test her, he thought, “I will see if she can enjoy the blessings of a princess on her own!”

The king ordered his servants to find a beggar from the streets and betrothed Shanguang to him. Without complaint, Shanguang removed her fine silk robes and precious jewelry, dressed in coarse clothing, and left with the beggar.

The beggar, who had long lost both parents and wandered alone, was astonished that a princess would marry him. When they returned to his old home, the house was dilapidated, with collapsed walls and overgrown weeds, except for one small patch where no grass grew.

Shanguang instructed her husband to dig at the bare spot. To their amazement, they unearthed a vast treasure of gold and silver. Astonishingly, wherever Shanguang bought land, gold was discovered beneath it. Using these treasures, she built a palace as grand and magnificent as the royal palace itself.

After some time, the king’s anger subsided, and he began to miss his daughter. Curious to see how she was living, he visited her new home. To his astonishment, he saw a palace even more splendid than his own, with countless servants attending to her needs. He was left speechless.

Shanguang explained to her father, “The blessings I enjoy in this life are the result of my past virtuous deeds.”

Perplexed, the king sought answers from the Buddha, asking, “What virtuous deeds did Shanguang perform in her past that she was born into royalty, married a poor beggar, yet still enjoys such wealth and prosperity?”

The Buddha revealed, “Ninety-one eons ago, during the time of Vipashyin Buddha, a king built a stupa to enshrine the Buddha’s relics after His nirvana. The king’s queen made an offering of a magnificent pearl crown, placing it atop the stupa. The radiant jewels on the crown illuminated all directions. That queen was Shanguang in a past life.

Later, during the time of Kashyapa Buddha, Shanguang again performed virtuous deeds by preparing heavenly offerings and the finest food for the Buddha. However, her husband at the time tried to discourage her. Shanguang replied, ‘Please do not stop me. Allow me the opportunity to make offerings to Kashyapa Buddha so I may experience peace and happiness in both body and mind.’ Her sincerity moved her husband, and they made the offerings together.

The beggar she married in this life was that same husband from her past. Because he once tried to prevent Shanguang’s offerings, he faces poverty in this life. However, since he later supported her, he now shares in her accumulated blessings, enjoying prosperity through her merits.

This story illustrates the infallible law of cause and effect. Good and bad karmic actions bring precise results. The blessings one rightfully earns cannot be taken away by others, and blessings not belonging to you cannot be forced into your life. Even the most elaborate schemes can fail, as a single disaster can reduce one to poverty again. Therefore, cultivating virtue and performing good deeds is truly the most rewarding ‘investment’ one can make.

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The Profound Wisdom of Generosity

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Generosity is an altruistic intention that brings joy to sentient beings and delight to all Buddhas. It involves considering others and giving up one’s own body, life, and possessions, even extending to the giving of the Dharma. In the very act of giving, one not only eliminates the habitual tendency of stinginess but also helps others overcome their difficulties. At the same time, one attains joy and freedom through a pure, selfless mind.

In Buddhist practice, generosity is the first of the six Pāramitās (perfections) that guide practitioners on the path to enlightenment. The Buddha teaches that acts of giving bring five kinds of merits:

  1. Longevity without misfortune.
  2. A dignified and pleasant appearance.
  3. Abundant energy and strength.
  4. Joy and freedom from worries.
  5. Wisdom and eloquence.

However, the intention behind giving is crucial. The thoughts and mindset of the giver determine the outcomes of their actions. The Buddha provided profound insight into this during a conversation with Venerable Sāriputta.

The Conversation Between the Buddha and Sāriputta

One time, Venerable Sāriputta asked Shakyamuni Buddha for clarification about the practice of generosity:

“Lord, is it possible that one person may give a gift of a certain kind, and it yields little fruit, while another gives the same kind of gift and yet it yields great fruit and benefit?”

The Blessed One replied, “Yes, Sāriputta, it is possible that a person may give a gift of a certain kind, and it does not bear great fruit, while another person gives the same kind of gift and it bears great fruit and benefit.”

“But Lord, what is the cause and reason for this difference? Why does one person’s gift bring small results while another’s yields much greater rewards, even when the gifts are of the same kind?”

The Blessed One explained, “Sāriputta, there are cases where a person gives a gift with a mind seeking personal profit, attached to the reward, hoping to enjoy it in the afterlife. Such a person may offer food, drink, clothing, vehicles, garlands, perfumes, ointments, bedding, shelter, or lamps to a contemplative or a brahmin. What do you think, Sāriputta? Could a person give a gift with such intentions?”

“Yes, Lord,” Sāriputta replied.

The Blessed One continued, “When such a person gives with a mind seeking personal gain, they may be reborn in the realm of the Four Great Kings. But after the results of that action are exhausted, they return to this world.

“However, there is another person who gives a gift not for personal profit, nor with a mind attached to the reward, but with the thought, ‘Giving is good.’ This person offers the same kinds of gifts to a contemplative or a brahmin. What do you think, Sāriputta? Could a person give in this way?”

“Yes, Lord,” Sāriputta affirmed.

“Such a person, on the break-up of the body after death, is reborn among the Devas of the Thirty-three. But once the result of that action has been exhausted, they, too, return to this world.

“Or a person may give with the thought, ‘This has been the custom of my family, handed down from my ancestors. I must uphold this tradition.’ When they pass away, they are reborn among the Devas of the Hours. Again, after the results of that action are exhausted, they return to this world.

“Alternatively, a person may give with the thought, ‘I am well-off, while others are not. It is only right that I share with those who have less.’ They are reborn among the Contented Devas, but eventually, they return to this world as well.

“Another person might give with the thought, ‘Just as the great sages of the past, such as Aṭṭhaka, Vāmaka, and others performed great sacrifices, so too will I distribute my gifts in this way.’ Upon death, they are reborn among the Devas who Delight in Creation, yet eventually return to this world.

“Or one may give a gift with the thought, ‘Giving brings serenity and joy to my mind.’ Such a person is reborn among the Devas Wielding Power over the Creations of Others. Still, after their merit is exhausted, they return.

“Finally, there is the person who gives not for future rewards, not out of custom, and not out of wealth or tradition, but with the thought, ‘This act of giving is an adornment and support for the mind.’ What do you think, Sāriputta? Could a person give in this way?”

“Yes, Lord,” Sāriputta answered.

The Blessed One said, “This person, upon the break-up of the body, is reborn among Brahmā’s Retinue. Having exhausted the results of their action, they do not return to this world but attain the state of non-return.

“This, Sāriputta, is the reason why one person’s gift may not bear great fruit, while another’s gift of the same kind may yield great fruit and benefit.”

The True Essence of Generosity

Generosity is not merely about the act of giving but also about the intention and mindset behind it. When one practices the virtue of giving with constant joy and unwavering determination, one cultivates all virtuous merits, attains pure samadhi, and gains clarity of insight. This clarity allows one to fully comprehend the origin of suffering, the cessation of suffering, and the path to liberation and happiness.

Therefore, one should always strive diligently and practice various virtuous deeds of giving, remembering that the purity of the heart and mind in the act of generosity determines its ultimate value and benefit—both for oneself and for the world.

Link: https://peacelilysite.com/2024/12/13/the-profound-wisdom-of-generosity/

A Thought-Provoking Reflection: Building a Harmonious World Through Self-Growth

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I recently came across a thought-provoking video that offered a profound insight into the root cause of social disorder. A newspaper invited submissions on the topic: “What is the root cause of social disorder?” One answer stood out for its simplicity yet profound depth: “It’s me.”

This response highlights a universal truth: the state of the world mirrors the state of each individual. If “I” embody qualities like sincerity, kindness, and a willingness to help, I can foster harmony in my family and community. Conversely, if “I” succumb to selfishness, greed, and deceit, disorder and instability are inevitable.

The peace and stability of society, our nation, and even the world rest on each of us. By reducing criticism of others and turning our attention inward—reflecting on our thoughts, words, and actions—we can become catalysts for harmony.

True greatness is not about outperforming others but about improving ourselves. By focusing on personal growth, we enrich our lives and contribute to a better world.

Mother Teresa’s Timeless Wisdom

Mother Teresa’s poem “Do It Anyway” offers profound guidance for navigating life’s challenges with integrity, kindness, and resilience. It reminds us to act according to our values, regardless of external circumstances:

People are unreasonable，illogical and self-centered

Love them anyway.

If you are kind，people may accuse you of selfish，ulterior motives；

Be kind anyway.

If you are successful，you will win some false friends and some true enemies；

Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow；

Do good anyway.

If you are honest and frank，people may cheat you；

Be honest and frank anyway.

People favor under dogs but follow only topdogs.

Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight；

Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness，they may be jealous；

Be happy anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.

Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have，And it may never be enough；

Give the world the best you have anyway.

Her words teach us that life’s meaning lies in staying true to our values, not in others’ perceptions or responses. Ultimately, our actions reflect a dialogue with our conscience, not a transaction with others.

Personal growth begins with the courage to look inward. When frustration or dissatisfaction arises, take a moment for self-reflection. Ask yourself, “How can I improve?” This practice shifts focus from external blame to internal progress. Growth unfolds through small, manageable goals—whether it’s mastering a new skill, refining emotional resilience, or nurturing patience.

Kindness is another cornerstone of personal development. Choose compassion, even when faced with misunderstanding or adversity, because every person carries unseen struggles. Alongside kindness, maintain integrity and uphold what’s right, regardless of external validation. As Mother Teresa wisely said, “Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; give your best anyway.”

By weaving self-reflection, purposeful improvement, and compassionate action into daily life, we not only enhance ourselves but also contribute to a more harmonious world.

World peace begins with individual actions. Change doesn’t require grand gestures; it starts with small, deliberate acts of kindness—a warm smile, a kind word, or a helping hand.

When we each commit to self-growth, compassion, and mindfulness, we create ripples of positive change in our communities and beyond. Together, these ripples can form a wave of harmony that transforms the world.

Let us strive to become better versions of ourselves, nurturing peace and love in our hearts. By doing so, we can build a brighter, more peaceful future—one person at a time.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/11/15/a-thought-provoking-reflection-building-a-harmonious-world-through-self-growth/

The Old Boat and the Journey Within: Lessons from the Buddha on Cultivation and Liberation

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During the Buddha’s lifetime, there was a time when he was teaching on the far side of a river. Eager to hear his wisdom, many monks wished to cross the river, but there was only one boat available. The boatman warned them, “My boat is very old, and with so many of you on board, it could be dangerous!” Yet, in their eagerness to reach the Buddha, the monks ignored the boatman’s caution and all climbed aboard. Reluctantly, the boatman set sail.

As they reached the middle of the river, the monks noticed water seeping into the bottom of the boat, and panic began to spread. The boatman calmly said, “I told you this boat is old, but you didn’t listen. Now, if you can’t stay calm, the boat will sink even faster.”

Upon hearing this, the monks stilled themselves and did not dare move. Thankfully, the boatman’s experience guided them safely to the other shore.

When the monks arrived and recounted the incident to the Buddha, he offered this teaching: “When you were in the boat, you feared for your safety. But in daily life, you fail to realize that danger is ever-present. Many people worry about the uncertainty of the future, yet neglect the most important thing — being mindful of the present moment. Focus on this life, this moment. Pay attention to your thoughts and purify your mind of the five poisons: greed, anger, ignorance, pride, and doubt.”

The Buddha continued, “Our bodies are like that old, leaky boat. We must reduce its burden, and the heaviest load is the weight of greed, anger, ignorance, pride, and doubt. Just like in the boat, if we don’t repair our minds and lighten our burdens, we risk sinking. Only by addressing these burdens can we safely reach the other shore.”

“Do not be preoccupied with the thought of being reborn in the Western Pure Land in your next life. Instead, focus on your present condition. Are you free from afflictions in this very moment? Do you act with an open heart? Can you humble yourself in the eyes of others? These are the true questions we must face in life.”

The contemporary Buddha H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III  has also imparted timeless wisdom on cultivation. His Holiness teaches that true cultivation stems from the depths of your heart, from your bodhicitta — the awakened mind of compassion. Be genuinely friendly and loving to your spouse, your brothers, and your sisters. Foster harmony with your friends, act cooperatively with others, and extend care and help to all sentient beings. Apply the Four Limitless States of Mind — loving-kindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity — and cultivate bodhicitta in every action. Constantly reflect on yourself: How do you treat others with your words? With your thoughts? With your actions?

The conduct of Buddhas and great Bodhisattvas is marked by complete disregard for personal gain. When interests conflict, they give way to others, willingly taking fewer benefits or even none. You must remind yourself, “When others harm or slander me, I will not be disturbed. Even to those who harm me, I will wish them well, sincerely hoping for their happiness. Furthermore, I will take practical steps to help them, even offering financial aid — without letting them know that I am doing so.”

By living in accordance with these teachings, we become holy ones at the causal stage. Without a doubt, such cultivation leads to the perfection of wisdom and virtue. Achieving liberation and accomplishment becomes as simple as turning over one’s hand!

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/09/19/the-old-boat-and-the-journey-within-lessons-from-the-buddha-on-cultivation-and-liberation/

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