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I Want to Love You

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Virginia Satir’s Wisdom on Love and Relationships

I want to love you without clutching,
Appreciate you without judging,
Join you without invading,
Invite you without demanding,
Leave you without guilt,
Criticize you without blaming,
And help you without insulting.
If I can have the same from you,
then we can truly meet and enrich each other.

Virginia Satir, a trailblazer in family therapy, is celebrated for her profound understanding of human emotions and relationships. Her timeless poem I Want to Love You encapsulates the essence of love in tender, insightful language. Satir invites us to redefine love as not merely an emotional bond but an intentional practice rooted in respect, understanding, and wisdom. (Photo from Wikimedia commons)

Satir emphasized the importance of nurturing love that is healthy, respectful, and boundaries. Her work reveals that true love fosters connection, trust, and mutual growth. This approach provides a blueprint for enriching relationships, particularly within families and marriages, where deep emotional bonds often coexist with challenges.

Love in Parent-Child Relationships

Satir’s therapeutic approach frequently emphasized parenting as a delicate balance of nurturing and letting go. One of her core principles was the importance of validating children’s emotions and individuality.

She often used metaphors to illustrate her points. For instance, she likened parenting to tending a garden: “You water the seeds, but you cannot decide how each flower will bloom.” This philosophy highlights the role of parents in providing unconditional support during early childhood while allowing space for independence as the child matures.

A famous anecdote from her work involved a mother who struggled with her teenage daughter’s rebellion. Satir encouraged the mother to write a letter expressing her love without judgment. This simple act fostered a renewed connection, demonstrating how acknowledgment and respect can rebuild bonds.

Parenting, as Satir taught, is about cultivating trust and allowing children to flourish as autonomous individuals, experiencing love as a source of empowerment rather than control.

Cultivating Love in Marital Bonds

Satir believed that love in marriage thrives on mutual respect, clear communication, and intentional effort. She often used her Family Sculpting technique to help couples visualize the dynamics of their relationship. By arranging family members to represent emotional closeness and distance, couples could see the need for adjustments in their behavior.

For instance, Satir once worked with a couple where the wife felt unheard. By “sculpting” the wife seated with her back to the husband, the couple visualized their emotional disconnection. This powerful exercise led to a heartfelt conversation where both partners committed to active listening and mutual validation.

In practice, Satir advocated for specific behaviors to nurture marital love:

  • A wife can replace nagging with encouragement and complaints with collaboration, creating a foundation of trust and partnership.
  • A husband can demonstrate responsibility through actions rather than words, replacing criticism with appreciation and patience.

These small, intentional changes can transform the atmosphere of a marriage, fostering harmony and mutual growth.

In all relationships—whether between parents and children or spouses—Satir emphasized equality, respect, and tolerance. She taught that love devoid of attachment, judgment, or control becomes a source of profound warmth and harmony.

Satir’s work inspires us to approach love as a life-affirming practice, one that enriches our connections and empowers personal growth. Whether through her transformative therapy sessions or the tender verses of her poetry, she reminds us that love is not just an emotion but a lifelong commitment to nurturing ourselves and those around us.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/11/21/i-want-to-love-you/

The Extraordinary Life of H.E. Xiazhu Qiuyang Rinpoche: A Master of Boundless Compassion and Wisdom

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The most venerable H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche, also known as H.E. Xiazhu Qiuyang Rinpoche, is a highly accomplished Buddhist master from Guoluo, renowned for his spiritual achievements and mastery of Vajrayana teachings. Born in the winter of 1945, his birth was marked by extraordinary signs: thunder echoed across the sky, and colorful flowers blossomed spontaneously on the grasslands surrounding his birthplace. Many local herdsmen witnessed these rare and auspicious omens, heralding the arrival of an extraordinary being.

Renowned mantra master Regong, a revered monk, recognized the young child as the reincarnation of the venerable Chagailong Cichengdaji Rinpoche and the great master Naropa. From an early age, Rinpoche dedicated himself to the welfare of all sentient beings, living a life of simplicity and spiritual practice in the mountains. Throughout his life, H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche devoted himself to intense ascetic practice, receiving direct teachings from the supreme Vajrayogini and attaining profound realization. It is said that he could soar through the sky, using his monk robes as wings, a testament to his deep mastery of esoteric yoga.

At the age of fourteen, Rinpoche was ordained as a monk under the guidance of Xiari Huzuo Qintu Dannima. Over the years, he studied under more than 100 highly accomplished masters from all major Tibetan Buddhist schools, including:

  • H.H. the Tenth Panchen Lama and H.H. the Sixth Dharma King Gongtang Yongzeng from the Gelug sect.
  • H.H. Dodrupchen Rinpoche and Khenpo Mengse from the Nyingma sect.
  • Kanda Chiwa Gadan from the Sakya sect.
  • Lama Wangcai Kazhige from the Kagyu sect.
  • Jiana Bannan from the Jonang sect.

From these masters, H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche absorbed the essence of both exoteric and esoteric teachings. His spiritual journey led him to receive numerous secret mind-dharma teachings and unique empowerments, passed down without reservation, like water flowing freely from a vessel.

Rinpoche spent much of his life wandering through remote mountains and plains, sleeping in caves, eating cold rice and vegetables gathered from alms, and wearing discarded clothing. He lived humbly, indifferent to worldly praise or criticism, appearing at times like a wandering madman. For 25 years, he did not speak a single word, dedicating himself entirely to the practice of the Dharma, undisturbed by the distractions of the world. His rigorous practice took him to numerous sacred sites across Tibet, Qinghai, and India, where he engaged in solitary retreat, including seven years of intense meditation at a holy site in India.

Through these practices, Rinpoche achieved profound realization in the Dakini Dharma, the Great Perfection (Dzogchen) teachings, Kalachakra Vajra Dharma, and Green Tara Dharma. His deep connection with Vajrayogini from a young age allowed him to access highly secret dakini teachings. Buddhist masters of great virtue have recognized H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche as the true reincarnation of the great master Naropa, revered as the “venerable leader of 100,000 dakinis.”

In a historic event, the International Buddhism Sangha Association conducted an unprecedented Drawing Lots From a Golden Vase Ceremony, drawing one lot from 120 sealed lots. This ceremony affirmed that H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche is indeed the reincarnation of Patriarch Naropa, a recognition that had been previously confirmed by H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III.

H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche has been praised by numerous revered masters, including H.H. the Tenth Panchen Lama, H.H. Dharma King Yongzeng, and H.H. Dharma King Jigme Phuntsok. Xiaridong Rinpoche, a master of the Yamantaka Dharma, described him as “a truly great master of the Dakini Dharma,” while H.H. Dharma King Jigme Phuntsok hailed him as “an extremely rare master who has perfected the Four Initiations Dharma.”

Despite his vast accomplishments, H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche remains humble and approachable, freely exercising his supernatural powers without attachment. Known for miraculous feats such as flying, multiplying his body, walking underwater, understanding multiple languages, foreseeing disasters and blessings, and reading people’s minds, Rinpoche is revered as “the unhindered rinpoche.” Clothing and personal items that Rinpoche has worn or used are said to be imbued with miraculous blessings. Many Tibetans have reported turning disasters into blessings, surviving dangerous situations, or recovering from serious illnesses after wearing or ingesting a small piece of his monk’s robe.

H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche’s legendary life and accomplishments have been widely recorded, including in books such as Holy Cultivation and Its Marvelous Fruits and Biographies of Ten Major Disciples of Dharma Kings. In Tibet, particularly in the Amdo region, almost everyone knows of his miraculous deeds. His life stands as a beacon of inspiration and a model of Dharma practice in this world of five defilements.

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Upon reading A Treasury of True Buddha-Dharma, H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche immediately recognized H.H. Wan Ko Yeshe Norbu as the primordial Dorje Chang Buddha, the highest Buddha in Buddhism. His realization corroborated the recognition of other great holy dharma kings. H.E. Xiazhu Choying Rinpoche offered his heartfelt congratulations in a respectful letter, further acknowledging the sacred truth.

To the Most Revered and Holiest Wish-Fulfilling Jewel Dharma King:

I have learned that A Treasury of True Buddha-Dharma, is a sacred text about His Holiness, the supreme and most honored H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III, is soon to be distributed worldwide. This book contains the highest, authentic Dharma that brings immense benefit to all sentient beings.

Master Dodrupchen, who is universally recognized as the second Guru Padmasambhava and the highest holy being within Tibetan esoteric Buddhism, expressed his astonishment in his formal congratulations. He praised the accomplishments of the Holiest Wan Ko Wish-Fulfilling Jewel Dharma King as truly extraordinary—unimaginable and miraculous, transcending the ordinary. These achievements express both the describable and indescribable absolute truth of the Buddha-Dharma.

We shall proclaim and praise the accomplishments of His Holiness throughout the Dharma realm. We express our deepest gratitude to His Holiness, the ancient Buddha, for His boundless and great compassion in coming to this world once again to benefit all sentient beings!

Xiazhu Qiuyang Rinpoche
May 1, 2007

▲那諾巴祖師轉世的夏珠秋楊敬賀第三世多杰羌佛成就之原函（楊宜翻攝自《多杰羌佛第三世》正法寶典）
▲Original congratulatory letter from Xiazhu Choying in Tibetan

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Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/10/16/the-extraordinary-life-of-h-e-xiazhu-qiuyang-rinpoche-a-master-of-boundless-compassion-and-wisdom/

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98. A Man Named Wise [Cheating]

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Once upon a time, the Enlightenment Being was born in a merchant’s family in Benares, in northern India. He was given the name Wise. When he grew up, he began doing business with a man whose name just happened to be Verywise.

It came to pass that Wise and Verywise took a caravan of 500 bullock carts into the countryside. After selling all their goods they returned to Benares with their handsome profits.

When it came time to split their gains between them, Verywise said, “I should get twice as much profit as you.” “How come?” asked Wise. “Because you are Wise and I am Verywise. It is obvious that Wise should get only half as much as Verywise.”

Then Wise asked, “Didn’t we both invest equal amounts in this caravan trip? Why do you deserve twice as much profit as I?” Verywise replied, “Because of my quality of being Verywise.” In this way their quarrel went on with no end in sight.

Then Verywise thought, “I have a plan to win this argument.” So he went to his father and asked him to hide inside a huge hollow tree. He said, “When my partner and I come by and ask how to share our profits, then you should say, ‘Verywise deserves a double share.”‘

Verywise returned to Wise and said, ‘My friend, neither of us wants this quarrel. Let’s go to the old sacred tree and ask the tree spirit to settle it.”

When they went to the tree Verywise said solemnly, “My lord tree spirit, we have a problem. Kindly solve it for us.” Then his father, hidden inside the hollow tree, disguised his voice and asked, “What is your question?” The man’s cheating son said, “My lord tree spirit, this man is Wise and I am Verywise. We have done business together. Tell us how to share the profits.” Again disguising his voice, his father responded, “Wise deserves a single share and Verywise deserves a double share.”

Hearing this solution, Wise decided to find out if it really was a tree spirit speaking from inside the tree. So he threw some hay into it and set it on fire. Immediately Verywise’s father grabbed onto a branch, jumped out of the flames and fell on the ground. He said in his own voice, “Although his name is Verywise, my son is just a clever cheater. I’m lucky that the one named Wise really is so, and I’ve escaped only half toasted!”

Then Wise and Verywise shared their profits equally. Eventually they both died and were reborn as they deserved.

The moral is: A cheater may be clever but not wise.

98. A Man Named Wise [Cheating]

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The Seven Treasures of True Wealth

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In this world, which sentient being does not desire great wealth? Which of us does not seek blessings and fortune? But what truly defines wealth? Most people measure it by the amount of money they have, the assets they own—be it real estate, cars, or stocks. These tangible things may seem like wealth, but they are easy to lose.

Money and jewels cannot provide lasting security—they can be stolen by thieves.
Reputation and status cannot guarantee stability—enemies can destroy them.
Family and friends are not unshakable—they can change as people’s hearts do.
Illness, aging, and death remind us that the body itself is fragile and impermanent.
Fate and fortune cannot be relied upon—karma follows us, shaping our circumstances.

So, what is the true wealth that we can hold onto in this fleeting lifetime?

Over 2,500 years ago, Shakyamuni Buddha illuminated the path to real wealth—wealth that transcends the material and leads to lasting peace and wisdom. He shared the Seven Treasures of Life, invaluable treasures that guide us to inner fulfillment and enlightenment. These treasures cannot be stored in vaults or spent like gold and jewels. They are the true treasures that nurture the soul.

The Seven Treasures:

  1. The Treasure of Faith
    This is the deep trust a disciple places in the Buddha’s awakening. It is unwavering confidence in the truth of the Buddha’s enlightenment and teachings. Faith is the compass that keeps a person on the path of liberation, a guiding light through life’s trials.
  2. The Treasure of Integrity
    Integrity means living in alignment with one’s highest principles. It manifests as abstaining from harmful actions—whether through speech, thought, or deed. A person with integrity refrains from violence, stealing, falsehood, and indulgence in intoxicants. Integrity is the treasure of a life well-lived with honesty, respect, and compassion for all beings.
  3. The Treasure of Self-Respect
    This treasure is found in the heart of those who uphold their dignity and honor. Self-respect means feeling shame at the thought of misconduct and avoiding actions that degrade one’s character. A person who treasures self-respect lives with a deep sense of morality and avoids causing suffering.
  4. The Treasure of Responsibility
    This treasure reflects an understanding of the consequences of one’s actions. It is a profound sense of accountability for one’s choices, knowing that every action—whether good or bad—impacts oneself and others. Responsibility is driven by a genuine concern for well-being, not out of fear, but from love and care.
  5. The Treasure of Learning
    Learning is the treasure of an eager and inquisitive mind. It is the pursuit of wisdom through listening, reflecting, and studying the teachings. A disciple who treasures learning delves into the Dharma, growing in understanding, and cultivating insight that transforms their perception of life.
  6. The Treasure of Generosity
    This treasure resides in an open and giving heart. It is the joy of sharing wealth, time, and kindness without clinging to material things. A generous person delights in helping others and is always ready to support those in need. Generosity brings happiness both to the giver and the receiver, and it enriches the soul beyond measure.
  7. The Treasure of Wisdom
    Wisdom is the crown jewel of all treasures. It is the deep understanding of life’s impermanence and the realization that clinging to fleeting things leads only to suffering. With wisdom, one sees the world as it truly is, cultivating peace, detachment, and the ability to make decisions that lead to lasting happiness.

True Wealth Beyond Material Possessions

Shakyamuni Buddha shared these seven treasures with his disciples, emphasizing that true wealth is not measured by material abundance but by these inner riches. Whether man or woman, young or old, those who possess these treasures are truly wealthy. Their lives are meaningful, filled with purpose, and unshaken by the ups and downs of worldly fortunes.

So, what can we learn from these timeless teachings?

Cultivate faith and integrity,
Grow in generosity and wisdom,
Walk the path with responsibility and learning,
Always remembering the teachings of the Buddhas,
for they are the guideposts to inner peace, fulfillment, and the truest wealth.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/09/26/the-seven-treasures-of-true-wealth/

Source: https://wisdomtea.org/2024/09/13/treasure/

The Old Boat and the Journey Within: Lessons from the Buddha on Cultivation and Liberation

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During the Buddha’s lifetime, there was a time when he was teaching on the far side of a river. Eager to hear his wisdom, many monks wished to cross the river, but there was only one boat available. The boatman warned them, “My boat is very old, and with so many of you on board, it could be dangerous!” Yet, in their eagerness to reach the Buddha, the monks ignored the boatman’s caution and all climbed aboard. Reluctantly, the boatman set sail.

As they reached the middle of the river, the monks noticed water seeping into the bottom of the boat, and panic began to spread. The boatman calmly said, “I told you this boat is old, but you didn’t listen. Now, if you can’t stay calm, the boat will sink even faster.”

Upon hearing this, the monks stilled themselves and did not dare move. Thankfully, the boatman’s experience guided them safely to the other shore.

When the monks arrived and recounted the incident to the Buddha, he offered this teaching: “When you were in the boat, you feared for your safety. But in daily life, you fail to realize that danger is ever-present. Many people worry about the uncertainty of the future, yet neglect the most important thing — being mindful of the present moment. Focus on this life, this moment. Pay attention to your thoughts and purify your mind of the five poisons: greed, anger, ignorance, pride, and doubt.”

The Buddha continued, “Our bodies are like that old, leaky boat. We must reduce its burden, and the heaviest load is the weight of greed, anger, ignorance, pride, and doubt. Just like in the boat, if we don’t repair our minds and lighten our burdens, we risk sinking. Only by addressing these burdens can we safely reach the other shore.”

“Do not be preoccupied with the thought of being reborn in the Western Pure Land in your next life. Instead, focus on your present condition. Are you free from afflictions in this very moment? Do you act with an open heart? Can you humble yourself in the eyes of others? These are the true questions we must face in life.”

The contemporary Buddha H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III  has also imparted timeless wisdom on cultivation. His Holiness teaches that true cultivation stems from the depths of your heart, from your bodhicitta — the awakened mind of compassion. Be genuinely friendly and loving to your spouse, your brothers, and your sisters. Foster harmony with your friends, act cooperatively with others, and extend care and help to all sentient beings. Apply the Four Limitless States of Mind — loving-kindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity — and cultivate bodhicitta in every action. Constantly reflect on yourself: How do you treat others with your words? With your thoughts? With your actions?

The conduct of Buddhas and great Bodhisattvas is marked by complete disregard for personal gain. When interests conflict, they give way to others, willingly taking fewer benefits or even none. You must remind yourself, “When others harm or slander me, I will not be disturbed. Even to those who harm me, I will wish them well, sincerely hoping for their happiness. Furthermore, I will take practical steps to help them, even offering financial aid — without letting them know that I am doing so.”

By living in accordance with these teachings, we become holy ones at the causal stage. Without a doubt, such cultivation leads to the perfection of wisdom and virtue. Achieving liberation and accomplishment becomes as simple as turning over one’s hand!

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2024/09/19/the-old-boat-and-the-journey-within-lessons-from-the-buddha-on-cultivation-and-liberation/

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The Wisdom of Humility: A Tale of Zuo Zongtang

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Zuo Zongtang, a prominent official of the late Qing dynasty, was renowned not only for his military prowess but also for his skill in the game of Go. His expertise was so exceptional that none of his subordinates could match him.

One day, while traveling incognito, Zuo Zongtang stumbled upon a thatched cottage with a plaque reading “The Best Go Player in the World.” Skeptical, he decided to challenge the owner to a series of games. To his surprise, he won all three matches. With a smile, Zuo Zongtang remarked, “You can take down that plaque now!” Satisfied, he continued on his journey.

However, after a successful military campaign, Zuo Zongtang returned to the same area. Curious to see if the plaque had been removed, he visited the cottage once more. To his astonishment, the plaque was still there. Determined to test his luck again, he challenged the owner to another three games—and this time, he lost all three. Perplexed, he asked the owner how this was possible.

The owner explained, “The last time you visited, you were on a mission to lead troops into battle. I didn’t want to affect your spirit negatively. But now that you’ve returned victorious, I felt free to play at my best.”

This story highlights a profound lesson: True mastery often involves knowing when to yield. A master may win, but true greatness lies in the ability to be gracious. Similarly, wisdom involves understanding the feelings of others and knowing when to let go of one’s own ambitions.

Life often mirrors this dynamic. While the clever may fixate on gains and losses, the truly wise are those who bravely release their attachments. Wisdom is not merely about cleverness but about humility and compassion.

In Buddhism, true wisdom arises from great compassion. When one transcends self-interest and embraces deep compassion, the door to true wisdom opens. H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III emphasizes in his teachings that genuine cultivation involves prioritizing the well-being of others. In his Dharma discourses, His Holiness has repeatedly highlighted the importance of:

“Establishing great compassion as your foundation. Avoid all evil deeds. Commit to all that is good. Set aside personal interests to benefit others. Patiently endure humiliation and adversity. Practice humility. Purify your mind. When encountering beings, regardless of their condition—be they handicapped, deficient, sick, or healthy—treat them all as family. Understand that all phenomena are governed by causality.”

The Buddha’s life exemplified this principle perfectly. He never sought to be revered from a lofty pedestal but instead viewed himself as a humble servant to all beings. Every action he took was dedicated to promoting peace, liberation, and happiness for all.

As a true Buddha living in the world at this time, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III has never been concerned about damaging His own honor, status, or image, for He has effaced Himself in order to benefit living beings by saying that He is an ordinary person like everyone else. In reality, the facts prove that in the few-thousand-year history of Buddhism, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III is truly one who has actually manifested the pinnacle of attainment in both Exoteric and Esoteric Buddhism and perfection in the Five Vidyas! His Holiness the Buddha is also the only one in the history of Buddhism who has made it His practice to benefit and serve living beings without accepting any offerings.

Link: https://peacelilysite.com/2024/08/09/the-wisdom-of-humility-a-tale-of-zuo-zongtang/

Source: https://www.sohu.com/a/113788534_456094

Can One Possess All-Encompassing Wisdom?

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It is hard to believe that anyone could possess all-encompassing wisdom. For us humans, dedicating a lifetime to mastering even one discipline is remarkable. How could someone be a philosopher, scientist, painter, sculptor, writer, doctor, and inventor all at once, mastering each within a few decades? This seems impossible by human standards. However, the Buddha’s vast and profound wisdom is genuinely real. Over 2,500 years ago, Siddhartha Gautama, the Buddha, invited anyone to ask him any question, promising a detailed answer. This is illustrated in the story of the Buddha teaching a cowherd, as recorded in the “Sutra of the Cowherd Parable.”

King Bimbisara of Magadha once invited the Buddha and 500 disciples to preach in his kingdom for three months. To provide them with fresh dairy products daily, the king arranged for cowherds to stay nearby. As the end of the three months approached, the king suggested the cowherds meet the Buddha. The cowherds, having heard of the Buddha’s wisdom, decided to test him with questions about cowherding. They reasoned that if he could answer these, he truly possessed all-encompassing wisdom.

Upon arriving at the Bamboo Grove, they were struck by the Buddha’s radiant presence. They saw him sitting under a tree, glowing like a golden mountain, radiating light like melted gold. Overwhelmed with joy, the cowherds discussed among themselves, “Regardless of whether the Shakyamuni possesses all-encompassing wisdom, anyone who sees him feels joy. His light is unparalleled, his appearance noble, and his presence exudes majesty. His radiance is clear and bright, his demeanor commanding respect, and his body adorned with the aura of virtue, making anyone who sees him feel immense joy.

If he indeed possesses all-encompassing wisdom, it must be due to his immeasurable merits. No worldly treasure can compare to the Buddha’s sublime and dignified presence, which brings great joy and pure faith to all who see him. It is clear that the Buddha must indeed possess all-encompassing wisdom.”

The shepherd thought about this and sat down to pay respects to the Buddha. They asked the Buddha, “What are the various methods a shepherd can use to ensure that the cattle thrive and reproduce well? And what conditions might prevent the cattle from growing properly and living peacefully?” The Buddha answered: There are eleven methods by which a shepherd can ensure the cattle’s well-being and reproduction. What are these eleven methods?

Understanding the Caretaker: Having a strong and capable caretaker who can protect and nourish the cattle, keeping them healthy and well-maintained. Similarly, a monk should be a respected and virtuous leader who can uphold the Dharma and guide beings toward good deeds.

Understanding Color: Knowing the colors of the cattle, such as black, white, or mixed. Similarly, a monk should understand that all phenomena in the world are composed of the four elements: earth, water, fire, and wind.

Understanding Appearance: Recognizing whether the cattle’s appearance is auspicious and whether they will be harmonious. A monk should similarly be able to discern whether someone’s actions indicate wisdom or ignorance.

Understanding Scraping: If insects bite the cattle and their blood is consumed, sores will develop. Scraping can remove these pests and promote the cattle’s well-being. Likewise, a monk should remove harmful views and misconceptions that corrupt their spiritual practice.

Understanding Wound Treatment: Applying medicine to prevent mosquito and fly bites and other injuries. Similarly, a monk should use correct Dharma teachings to protect themselves from delusions and negative emotions.

Understanding Smoke: Using smoke to drive away insects so the cattle can stay in a comfortable, insect-free shelter. Similarly, a monk should use the teaching of Dharma to lead beings to the state of emptiness and liberation.

Understanding Good Ways: Knowing the behavior and preferences of the cattle and how to keep them healthy. A monk should understand how to practice the Noble Eightfold Path to achieve Nirvana and avoid falling into the extreme paths of annihilation or eternalism.

Understanding the Right Place: Knowing how to provide a place where the cattle can live healthily and with minimal sickness. Similarly, a monk should practice and teach the Dharma to cultivate purity and increase good roots.

Understanding Good Routes: Knowing which paths are safe and which places are good for crossing rivers, avoiding places with waves and pests. Similarly, a monk should learn from knowledgeable teachers and adapt their teachings to the capacities of sentient beings.

Understanding Safe Places: Ensuring the cattle live in places free from predators and harmful creatures. Similarly, a monk should maintain mindfulness to avoid the harmful effects of negative emotions.

Understanding Milk Preservation: Ensuring that the mother cow’s milk is not consumed completely by the calf so that both the mother and the owner can benefit from it daily. Similarly, laypeople should use offerings such as clothing and food economically to benefit both the givers and receivers.

The cowherds, after hearing the Buddha’s teachings, thought, “We cowherds know only three or four methods, and our predecessors knew only five or six. Hearing the Buddha today is truly astonishing and unprecedented! The Buddha indeed possesses complete wisdom beyond doubt.”

This is described in the “Sutra of the Parable of the Cowherds.” From this, we understand that there are individuals with complete wisdom.

Today, due to the supreme and exceptional causes and conditions, the original primordial Buddha, Vajradhara has once again descended into the Saha World to manifest all-encompassing wisdom. H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III once said: Within five years (from 1995 to 1999), if any sentient being asks ME any question, the answer should be given immediately without any hesitation. If there is any need to think about it, or if there is slight hesitation or any fabrication, or if the answer is not comprehensive, I will immediately step down from the Dharma throne and no longer be qualified to teach the Dharma.”

In the more than two thousand Dharma discourses spoken by the Buddha, He provided direct and comprehensive answers to various questions on practice and methods for His disciples. Sometimes, even before the disciples spoke, He would say, ‘I know what you want to ask. You don’t need to say anything; I will answer you directly.’ The disciples would nod in agreement. There was also Zeng Ruzhang, who studied stealth aircraft and asked why they can be invisible. Lobsang Zhenzhu Rinpoche once proposed to see Green Tara, and shortly after, a divine manifestation appeared, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III fulfilled his wish…

Step into the International Art Museum of America in San Francisco or the  H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III Culture and Art Museum in West Covina, and you will be able to appreciate world-class masterpieces of art. H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III has created Chinese paintings, oil paintings, and various styles of calligraphy. In addition to mastering styles from existing schools of painting, such as Realism, Abstract, Line, and Impressionism, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III has independently developed sixteen unique schools of painting.

At the fourth session of the World Poets and Culture Conference held in Hungary in 1994, more than 5,600 experts and scholars representing 48 countries and regions unanimously approved conferring upon H.H.  Dorje Chang Buddha III the title “Distinguished International Master,” which has an honorific status comparable to a head of state. 

H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III possesses extraordinary and saintly wisdom, perceiving the true essence of the universe and life. Whether it be within the various sects of Buddhism or in all worldly fields such as art, science, medicine, and philosophy, His accomplishments reach the highest level in every aspect, with unparalleled expertise and a unique status beyond any saint.”

The treasure book, “H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III,” stands as a testament to this statement. However, this book contains only a drop of water from the vast ocean of Buddha’s teachings and wisdom.

The video below showcases the boundless compassion and highlights the extraordinary accomplishments of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III. It was published by China Educational Channels TV and features interviews with Buddhist disciples from around the globe.

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A Great Drum

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The Wisdom of Generosity: A Tale of Compassion and Righteousness

Once, the Buddha was residing in the Jetavana Monastery in the kingdom of Śrāvastī, spreading his teachings. At that time, there was a prince of a celestial king named Pilu. One day, he flew down from the heavens to the Jetavana Monastery, prostrated himself at the Buddha’s feet, and, with hands folded in reverence, asked the Buddha: “In this world, people are constantly pursuing clothes, food, treasures, pleasures, official positions, and territories. Are there any treasures that pursue people in return?” The Buddha praised Prince Pilu: “You have asked a good question. Indeed, there are situations where territories, treasures, and pleasures pursue people.”

Prince Pilu asked again, “What does it mean for the causes and conditions that fulfill people’s wishes and bring complete satisfaction to always follow them?”

The Buddha replied, “All actions can be categorized into two types: doing good deeds, which brings blessings, and committing evil deeds, which results in calamities. Whether it is blessings or disasters, they always follow each person like a shadow.”

Prince Pilu said, “This is truly extraordinary! Just as the World-Honored One has taught, in my past life, I was once a king among humans. Because I was aware of the impermanence of life and had no attachment to material things, I wanted to practice generosity widely. One day, during a gathering of my ministers, I announced: ‘I want to make a great drum whose booming sound can spread for a hundred miles. Who can accomplish this task for me?’

However, the ministers all replied, ‘We are incapable of doing so!’ At that moment, a minister named Kuang Shang, who had always been loyal to the court and compassionate towards the people, stepped forward and said to the king, ‘I can accomplish this task, but it will require some funding.’

The king said, ‘Great! Whatever amount you need is not a problem.’ Thus, the treasury was opened, and a large sum of money was handed over to Kuang Shang.

Kuang Shang transported a carriage full of treasures to the gate of the royal palace and beat the drum to announce, “Today, our benevolent king, with great compassion, is distributing wealth to the world to relieve all those in poverty and distress, as well as to provide for the needs of practitioners. Anyone in need can come to the palace gate to receive these goods.”

The news quickly spread to neighboring countries. The poor, carrying their babies and bringing along the elderly and young, came in droves, filling all the roads leading to the city. People would often look up to the sky and exclaim, “Thank you, benevolent king! We, the poor people, finally have the chance to escape the days of hunger and cold!”

A year later, the king asked Kuang Shang, “Is the great drum completed?” The minister replied, “Your Majesty, it is done.” The king asked again, “Since it is finished, why haven’t I heard the drum sound?” Kuang Shang responded, “Please, Your Majesty, take a trip into the city tomorrow, and you will hear the sound of virtue resonating far and wide.”

The next day, the king’s procession entered the city, discovering it was crowded and bustling. The king exclaimed, “Why are there so many people in the city?” Kuang Shang answered, “Last year, Your Majesty ordered me to create a great drum, hoping its mighty sound would spread for miles, proclaiming Your Majesty’s benevolence. I thought that a drum made of dead wood and cowhide would not adequately convey the king’s virtue. After much deliberation, I decided to use the treasures Your Majesty entrusted to me to provide for the practitioners and relieve the poor and distressed. Since the announcement, people from neighboring countries have come, hoping for Your Majesty’s benevolence, like hungry children yearning for their compassionate mother.”

Upon hearing this, the king asked the nearby citizens, “Where have you come from?” The people respectfully bowed and replied, “We came from a hundred miles away.” Some said, “I came from two hundred miles away.” Others said, “I came from thousands of miles away.” Then, they all declared, “Wise and benevolent king! Your widespread generosity has brought joy to the people of the neighboring countries. Many have even moved their entire families here, seeking to live under your benevolent protection and hoping for a stable life henceforth.”

The king was very pleased and said, “Kuang Shang, you have done an excellent job! Previously, I was attached to fame, hoping that the great drum’s mighty sound would resonate far and wide. Now, I finally understand that the unrest in the country comes from the people’s unease. Just as a sick body needs medicine to be healed, I should provide remedies to address the people’s suffering. You, my minister, understood the hardships of the people and distributed food to help the poor and needy, allowing the people to live in peace and return their loyalty to me.” Thus, the king declared, “From now on, as long as it concerns the people’s needs, take care of it to the best of your ability without needing to consult me!”

After the king’s natural death, he was reborn in heaven as King Miao. After his life in heaven ended, he was reborn as a Cakravartin (Wheel-Turning) King on earth, always accompanied by seven treasures and surrounded by followers who protected him. Now, he has again been reborn in heaven as a prince of the heavenly king. All of this was because he strictly upheld pure precepts and compassionately aided all living beings, earning such blessings. If we follow the Buddha’s teachings and rectify our body, speech, and mind, we can all obtain such magnificent blessings.

The Buddha encouraged Prince Bilu, saying, “A person’s actions are like a shadow following the body, or an echo responding to a sound. For every cause, there is an effect, and retribution is certain!” Prince Bilu, after hearing the Buddha’s teaching, joyfully made obeisance and departed.

A Great Drum

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Unlocking Life’s Wisdom: Lessons from Benjamin Franklin

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In the intricate tapestry of life, the tragedy often unfolds in the untimely aging of our bodies and the delayed acquisition of wisdom. The relentless pace of time is keenly felt as we advance in age, and it appears to quicken its stride. Acknowledging the finite and precious nature of life, the imperative emerges to use time judiciously, ensuring it doesn’t slip away in vain. Wisdom, a product of experience, demands the investment of time to mature.

Many traverse their youthful years without a profound understanding of life or the ability to make sound decisions. These capabilities tend to evolve slowly, sculpted by the crucible of life and work experiences. Regrettably, just as individuals amass the wisdom to navigate life effectively, the opportune moments for significant changes might have already slipped through their grasp.

To avert the arrival of wisdom too late, one must treasure time, actively seek learning and growth opportunities, and expedite wisdom acquisition through continuous learning, reflection, and introspection. Making sagacious choices early in life becomes a shield against future regrets.

The aforementioned philosophy mirrors Franklin D. Roosevelt’s contemplation and insight into life, urging individuals to proactively plan and reflect on their lives from a young age. Striving for the wisdom that typically takes years to acquire allows for the optimal utilization of limited time, resulting in a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

Persuasion: Appealing to Interests Over Reason

In the realm of persuasion, appealing to interests often outshines the use of reason alone. The driving force behind human behavior lies in the pursuit of benefits and the avoidance of harm. To sway others convincingly, it is crucial to showcase the tangible or intangible benefits they stand to gain by adopting a suggestion. This pragmatic approach surpasses relying solely on logic and rational arguments.

Rooted in fundamental psychological principles of human decision-making, individuals tend to weigh their interests and benefits when making choices. Clearly illustrating how adopting a suggestion directly or indirectly benefits them—such as saving time, reducing costs, improving health, or increasing happiness—makes the suggestion more likely to be accepted.

While rational thinking plays a pivotal role in decision-making, emotions profoundly influence human choices. Emphasizing how a suggestion meets others’ needs, desires, or alleviates their pain can evoke emotions and enhance the persuasiveness of the argument.

The call to appeal to interests doesn’t negate the importance of logic and reason in persuasion. Rather, it recognizes that addressing individuals’ interests alongside rational thinking fosters emotional resonance, increasing the likelihood of persuasive success.

Combining the demonstration of benefits with sound reasoning can comprehensively influence the audience’s decision-making process. Yet, the essence lies in the reminder that, in persuading others, emphasis should be placed on making them see the direct benefits of following the advice. Such appeals are more attractive and compelling, urging action.

Words of Wisdom: Thoughtful Speech and Lifelong Learning

“Fool’s hearts are in their mouths; wise men’s mouths are in their hearts.” This timeless advice urges against reckless or thoughtless speech, stemming from the eagerness to express ideas without due consideration. A wise person contemplates before speaking, filtering thoughts and emotions before choosing words. This not only avoids misunderstandings and conflicts but also reflects maturity and wisdom.

Thinking more and speaking less is the mantra. Caution with words prevents reckless speech. Investing in knowledge, unlike wealth, provides lasting returns. Allocating resources to personal growth and wisdom yields valuable returns. While wealth can be stolen or lost, knowledge gained through learning becomes an everlasting asset, guiding individuals to make wise decisions and achieve success.

Investing time, money, and energy in education and learning ensures acquired knowledge becomes an intrinsic part of oneself—a secure and irrevocable asset. Returns from self-improvement far exceed material wealth accumulation.

Stages of Life: Wisdom’s Evolution

At twenty, willpower dominates; at thirty, wit takes control; at forty, judgment prevails. Different life stages exhibit distinct psychological and competency characteristics. The twenties are often driven by willpower, with decisions based on impulses and passion. By thirty, adaptability and mechanisms take precedence, with accumulated experience guiding creative problem-solving. Wit becomes crucial for survival and success. By forty, decisions are grounded in mature judgment, informed by rich experiences.

Judgment becomes the key ability for this age group—guiding individuals to make rational and long-term decisions in complex environments. Mental development undergoes changes with age, and active learning and adaptation should be encouraged at every stage. Utilizing each period’s characteristics to achieve personal potential and goals is the key.

Continuous Growth: The Lifelong Pursuit

In the journey of life, successful individuals strive for daily self-improvement. Failures, on the other hand, repeat the same patterns daily. The distinction between success and failure lies in continuous self-improvement versus stagnation.

Some individuals stagnate in the early stages of life, and while physically alive, they lack true meaning and vitality. The essence of life isn’t solely in its length but in its depth and quality. Lifelong learning, continuous self-improvement, and exploration are crucial to maintaining vitality and meaning. Regardless of life stage, the pursuit of growth and change is paramount, avoiding premature spiritual death and infusing life with vibrancy and progress.

Positive Communication: The Power of Praise

“I won’t say anything negative about anyone; I’ll only speak positively about everyone I know.” Focusing on people’s strengths rather than weaknesses builds and maintains good relationships. Choosing to selectively share opinions about others, even if aware of their shortcomings, promotes a positive atmosphere.

This practice avoids hurting others’ self-esteem, reduces conflicts, and fosters a positive environment. Commending others’ strengths and achievements makes them feel respected and recognized, enhancing relationships and intimacy. Praise motivates individuals, opens their hearts, and fosters a positive and constructive attitude in interpersonal relationships.

By concentrating on others’ strengths and offering sincere praise, a harmonious social environment is cultivated, and deeper connections are formed. This approach applies not only to personal relationships but also to interactions in the workplace and public life.

Thoughtful Debate: Constructive Communication

Debating and refuting in interpersonal communication can have potential negative impacts, particularly when this behavior becomes habitual. Even if one proves their point in an argument, victories may lack substantive value, potentially sacrificing relationships. People value being respected and understood more than being persuaded or defeated.

Adopting an open and constructive attitude in communication, listening, respecting others’ viewpoints, and seeking understanding fosters healthy relationships. This approach prioritizes effective communication over the pursuit of victory in every argument.

Practical Wisdom: Testing Thoughts Through Action

Thoughts lead to actions, and actions have consequences. The true test of thoughts lies in observing the effects of the behavior they guide. Judging the value of a thought is most effectively done by observing the practical effects of the behavior it influences. Actions guided by positive thoughts, leading to personal growth and societal improvement, are considered valuable and correct.

The effectiveness of thoughts and beliefs is best evaluated by their application in real life, focusing on outcomes rather than theoretical consistency. A results-oriented approach encourages critical thinking based on actual consequences, promoting self-awareness and a practical mindset.

Navigating Contradictions: Empathy and Self-Reflection

In a world where fools and cowards coexist, Franklin’s observation highlights the contradiction in human behavior. People often find enough courage and wisdom to endure others’ misfortunes and mind others’ business. This contradiction emphasizes the need for self-improvement rather than excessive intervention in others’ lives.

“Love thy neighbor, but do not tear down your fence” underscores the importance of maintaining good social relations while respecting personal boundaries and privacy. Balancing relationships while preserving personal independence and dignity fosters both community welfare and personal growth.

Overcoming Poverty: The Power of Mindset

“Poverty itself is not frightening; what is truly frightening is the mindset that believes one is destined to be poor or bound to die poor.” The real danger lies in negative thought patterns perceiving oneself as inevitably poor. Poverty is a changeable condition, and individuals can improve their situations through effort, education, and innovation.

Rejecting the acceptance of poverty as an unchangeable fate and believing in the ability to alter life circumstances fosters optimism. Maintaining a positive mindset provides the motivation to seek change, find opportunities, and achieve personal growth and success.

Benjamin Franklin’s Timeless Wisdom

Franklin’s thoughts and quotes encompass various facets of life, offering lessons in personal growth, interpersonal relationships, professional ethics, and social responsibility. His profound insights and pragmatic philosophy remain relevant, providing guidance on how to balance personal development with social responsibility, navigate complex relationships, and approach life’s challenges with a positive attitude.

As we absorb Franklin’s wisdom, we gain not only a deeper understanding of human nature and social phenomena but also a blueprint for a more fulfilling and meaningful life. Franklin’s legacy endures as a beacon of practical wisdom, encouraging us to embrace continuous learning, cultivate positive relationships, and face life’s journey with resilience and optimism.

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Benjamin Franklin’s 13 Virtues: A Blueprint for Personal Development

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A Path to Personal Excellence

George Washington may rightly be known as the “Father of his Country,” but for the two decades before the American Revolution, Benjamin Franklin held the title of the world’s most famous American.

Franklin, a celebrated scientist and inventor, earned recognition for his groundbreaking electrical experiments, winning the Royal Society’s Copley Medal—a prestigious 18th-century equivalent of the Nobel Prize. His notable inventions included the lightning conductor, the first map of the Gulf Stream, and a unique musical instrument, the glass armonica. Renowned composers like Gluck, Mozart, and Beethoven created concertos for this instrument. Franklin’s genius received international acclaim, with Immanuel Kant describing him as “The Prometheus of Modern Times,” and David Hume hailing him as America’s “first great man of letters.”

Benjamin Franklin, a polymath and one of the Founding Fathers of the United States, left an enduring legacy not only for his political contributions but also for his philosophy of personal development. In his autobiography, Franklin outlined 13 virtues that he believed were crucial for leading a virtuous and successful life. This blog post will explore each of these virtues and delve into how Franklin practiced them in his own life.

  1. Temperance: Franklin advised moderation in eating and drinking, emphasizing the importance of avoiding excess. By maintaining temperance, individuals could achieve a clear and focused mind. Franklin recognized that a balanced lifestyle laid the foundation for success in cultivating other virtues.
  2. Silence: The virtue of silence urged individuals to speak only when their words could benefit others or themselves, discouraging trifling conversation. Franklin realized the power of listening and the importance of thoughtful communication for personal and intellectual growth.
  3. Order: To bring order to one’s life, Franklin recommended organizing belongings and allocating time efficiently. By assigning specific places for possessions and dedicating time to each aspect of one’s business, an individual could enhance productivity and reduce chaos.
  4. Resolution: Resolution involved the commitment to fulfill one’s duties and promises without fail. Franklin understood that steadfast determination was crucial for personal and professional success, encouraging individuals to set goals and work relentlessly towards achieving them.
  5. Frugality: Franklin advocated for mindful spending, emphasizing that expenses should serve a purpose, either benefiting oneself or others. This virtue highlighted the importance of avoiding wastefulness and making financial decisions with a long-term perspective.
  6. Industry: Losing no time and being consistently engaged in useful activities formed the basis of the virtue of industry. Franklin valued hard work and believed that avoiding unnecessary actions was essential for personal progress and achievement.
  7. Sincerity: Sincerity required the avoidance of deceit and the cultivation of honest and just thoughts and speech. Franklin believed that sincerity contributed to building trust in personal and professional relationships.
  8. Justice: The virtue of justice focused on treating others fairly and fulfilling one’s duty to both prevent harm and provide benefits. Franklin emphasized the importance of not wronging others through actions or neglect.
  9. Moderation: Avoiding extremes in emotions and reactions, particularly in response to injuries, was crucial for maintaining composure and cultivating the virtue of moderation. Franklin recognized the value of forbearance in dealing with challenges.
  10. Cleanliness: Tolerating no uncleanliness in body, clothes, or habitation reflected Franklin’s belief in the importance of personal hygiene and a clean environment for overall well-being.
  11. Tranquility: Tranquility involved maintaining a calm and composed demeanor, especially in the face of trifles and common accidents. Franklin valued the ability to remain undisturbed and focused on long-term goals.
  12. Chastity: Chastity, as outlined by Franklin, suggested a responsible approach to intimate relationships, emphasizing health and the well-being of oneself and others.
  13. Humility: Imitating the virtues of Jesus and Socrates, humility was the capstone of Franklin’s 13 virtues. Humility involved recognizing one’s strengths and weaknesses, learning from others, and continually striving for self-improvement.

Franklin’s approach to acquiring these virtues was systematic. He advised focusing on one virtue at a time, mastering it before moving on to the next. By prioritizing temperance, Franklin believed that a clear and focused mind would make subsequent virtues easier to acquire. This deliberate and methodical approach allowed him to build a foundation for a virtuous life.

Benjamin Franklin’s 13 virtues remain a timeless guide to personal development and success. By understanding and incorporating these principles into our lives, we can strive towards a more virtuous and fulfilling existence, following in the footsteps of one of history’s most influential thinkers and statesmen.

Benjamin Franklin’s 13 Virtues: A Blueprint for Personal Development

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