By Gregory Lyakhov
Perry Garfinkel embarks on a spiritual journey, blending Jewish roots with Gandhi’s transformative principles in ‘Becoming Gandhi.’
Perry Garfinkel, a longtime contributor to the New York Times and author of four books, has spent a lifetime seeking the deeper meaning of truth. In his latest book, Becoming Gandhi, he embarks on a spiritual journey to embody Gandhi’s principles. His unconventional path to this project bridges the values of his Jewish upbringing, his career in journalism, and his exploration of Gandhi’s teachings.
“What’s a nice Jewish boy doing writing about a Hindu icon?” Garfinkel joked during an interview. Beneath the humor, however, lies a profound question about faith, identity, and the search for common ground.
Born on Staten Island, a borough of NYC, but having lived briefly in Queens, Garfinkel has roots that trace back to a Jewish family from Queens, New York. He grew up in West Orange, New Jersey, and attended High Holy Day services with his grandfather, Moe Garfinkel, at the Queens Jewish Center in Queens Village. Religion was a pillar of his childhood, but something always felt missing.
“I never felt the heart of Judaism,” he said. “I wanted to taste it, but it felt out of reach.”
This sense of spiritual longing led Garfinkel beyond his roots. In his twenties, he traveled to India, where he encountered Hinduism and Buddhism. Garfinkel’s experiences sparked a fascination with spiritual practices that would shape his life.
“I’m a spiritual expeditionary,” he said. “I’ve always been searching for the truth—something that connects us all.”
His journey took a significant turn when his literary agent suggested he write about Gandhi. At the time, Garfinkel was coming off the success of Buddha or Bust, a national bestselling book documenting his exploration of Buddhism. The suggestion to focus on Gandhi intrigued him.
“I’ve been visiting India since 2003,” he explained. “Gandhi is everywhere—his quotes are on walls, his statues are in the streets. But I wanted to go deeper than the surface.”
The result was Becoming Gandhi, a book in which Garfinkel challenged himself to live by six of Gandhi’s core principles: truth, nonviolence, vegetarianism, simplicity, faith, and celibacy. Each principle posed unique challenges and taught him invaluable lessons.
“Truth was the hardest,” he admitted. “You look in the mirror and ask, ‘What is my truth?’ It’s like chasing mercury—you try to hold it, and it moves.”
Nonviolence tested him in different ways. In a world filled with conflict, war, and violence in entertainment, staying true to Gandhi’s vision of peace was no small task. “We’re bombarded by violence in so many forms,” he said. “How do we filter that out and choose something better?”
As he immersed himself in Gandhi’s teachings, Garfinkel found his thoughts returning to his Jewish identity. Gandhi himself had a deep interest in other religions, including Judaism. “He read the Old Testament, the New Testament, and the Quran,” Garfinkel said. “That openness inspired me to revisit my faith with fresh eyes.”
Perry Garfinkel interviews Ela Gandhi, granddaughter of Mahatma Gandhi and former member of Parliament in South Africa, in Durban.
Garfinkel had begun to re-identify his Jewish roots, working for about six years as media manager for the Jewish Community Federation of San Francisco. But through Gandhi, Garfinkel found a way to reinterpret Judaism’s role in his life. “Judaism gave me a foundation,” he explained. “But Gandhi provided new ways to think about it. He showed me that being rooted in your tradition doesn’t mean closing yourself to other perspectives. Instead, it can enrich your understanding.”
Not all of Gandhi’s principles were easy for Garfinkel to adopt. Vegetarianism, for example, was particularly challenging for someone raised in a “meat and potatoes” family.
“I grew up on steak, corned beef, and other deli meats,” he said. “Giving that up wasn’t easy.” Eventually, he found a middle ground. “I call it tapering—gradually cutting back rather than going cold turkey. It’s about finding balance and making it sustainable.”
Beyond the personal challenges, Gandhi’s approach to global issues also led to deep reflection for Garfinkel. Gandhi’s decision to write letters to Adolf Hitler, addressing him as “Dear Friend,” struck many as naive or even offensive. Garfinkel, however, saw another perspective.
“Gandhi wasn’t trying to excuse Hitler’s actions,” he explained. “He attempted to model moral behavior, even when it seemed futile. His letters weren’t really for Hitler but for the rest of us. They were a reminder of what it means to stand for peace, even when the world is falling apart.”
For Garfinkel, the Holocaust added another layer to this complex discussion. His grandmother fled Poland before the worst atrocities, but many relatives were not so fortunate. “The Holocaust is personal for me,” he said. “It’s part of my identity as a Jew and a writer. Balancing that history with Gandhi’s message of forgiveness and nonviolence has been one of the hardest parts of this journey.”
Through his writing, Garfinkel bridges his Jewish heritage with his spiritual explorations, demonstrating that the two are not in opposition but in harmony. “Being Jewish and open to other traditions aren’t contradictory,” he said. “They’re complementary. They deepen your understanding of who you are.”
Today, Garfinkel continues to write and reflect, encouraging others to embark on their journeys of self-discovery. Gandhi’s message is simple but profound: “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
For Garfinkel, change begins with understanding—of oneself, one’s traditions, and the connections that bind us all. His work encourages others to reflect on their identity and potential by adopting some of Gandhi’s principles.
About the Author: Gregory Lyakhov is a sixteen-year-old high school student from New York with a passion for politics and law. He has been fascinated by government from an early age and aspires to be involved one day. Outside of politics, you’ll often find him running, swimming, or enjoying Pickleball and snowboarding. Join him on his journey of exploration!
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