Why being “right” isn’t enough—and how true communication requires compassion, timing, and genuine benefit

Beyond the Truth: The Buddha’s Wisdom on Sacred Speech

In daily life, we frequently hear people defend sharp or hurtful remarks with a familiar defense: “I’m just speaking the truth.”

We often operate under the assumption that as long as our statements are factually accurate, we are justified in ignoring the timing, the setting, and the recipient’s emotional capacity. Yet in the Abhaya Sutta (Majjhima Nikaya 58) of the Pali Canon, the Buddha offers a radically different perspective on communication: the true value of speech extends far beyond mere factual accuracy.

The story begins with a trap. Nigantha Nataputta, leader of the Jains, sought to publicly corner the Buddha. He instructed Prince Abhaya to pose a carefully engineered dilemma:

“Would the Tathagata utter speech that is displeasing or disagreeable to others?”

It seemed like an inescapable box:

  • If the Buddha answered “Yes,” the prince would argue that he was no different from any ordinary person who hurls harsh words and causes distress.
  • If the Buddha answered “No,” the prince would counter by pointing to instances where the Buddha severely rebuked Devadatta—words that were undeniably painful for Devadatta to hear.

Confident in his trap, Nigantha Nataputta boasted that the question would stick in the Buddha’s throat like a barbed nut—impossible to swallow and impossible to spit out.

When Prince Abhaya hosted the Buddha for a meal the next day and posed the question, the Buddha quietly dismantled the binary trap: “There is no single, one-sided answer to this matter.”

The Buddha refused to play by a rigid, two-dimensional rule. Whether a Master speaks is never determined solely by whether the listener will find the words pleasant.

Having neutralized the debate tactic, the Buddha turned toward a young child sitting near the prince and offered a deeply human metaphor.

He asked the prince: “If this young child were to accidentally put a sharp piece of wood or a pebble into his mouth, what would you do?”

The prince replied without hesitation that he would immediately try to extract it. If necessary, he would hook his finger into the child’s mouth to drag it out—even if it meant causing pain or drawing blood—because the object had to come out.

When the Buddha asked why he would do such a thing, the prince’s answer was simple: “Because of compassion for the child.”

With this single image, the debate shifted entirely.

Some truths are uncomfortable to hear, much like removing a foreign object from a child’s mouth brings temporary pain. But the criterion for speaking is never immediate comfort; it is long-term welfare. A loving father reaches into his child’s mouth not to assert dominance, nor to punish, but because leaving the pebble inside causes far greater harm.

Through this parable, the Buddha established three essential checkpoints that every word must pass before it is spoken:

  • Truthfulness: Is it grounded in fact? Words that are false are never spoken.
  • Benefit: Is it genuinely useful? Even if a statement is 100% true, if it brings no constructive benefit to the listener, it remains unsaid.
  • Timeliness: Is this the right moment? Only when a statement is both true and beneficial will a wise speaker choose the appropriate time to speak it.

In the Buddha’s framework, truth is merely the entrance requirement. If a statement is factually correct but unhelpful, ill-timed, or purely divisive, silence is the highest wisdom.

Looking Inward: Winning vs. Healing

The contrast between the two parties in this sutta highlights two very different motivations for speaking:

  • The Debate Strategy: Designed to corner, crush, and silence the other person—driven by the desire to win.
  • The Buddha’s Response: Designed like a parent rescuing a child from danger—driven by the desire to heal.

This distinction invites us to examine our own hearts before we speak “harsh truths” or offer sharp criticism:

Are we speaking because we genuinely want to help the other person suffer less, or are we simply trying to prove ourselves right and dominate the conversation?

True goodwill allows for necessary firmness, but it must always rest upon the foundation of truth, benefit, and proper timing. Practicing the wisdom of Right Speech is not just about holding our tongue—it is about refining our intent, ensuring that every word we release carries gentle yet steadfast compassion.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2026/09/02/why-being-right-isnt-enough-and-how-true-communication-requires-compassion-timing-and-genuine-benefit/

The Selling Price of His Painting “Majesty” Has Shocked the World

What Type of Expert Is He? The Selling Price of His Painting “Majesty” Has Shocked the World

The Explanation of the Buddha’s Title – “H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III”

On April 3, 2008, a solemn and dignified first-publishing ceremony of a fact-recording book entitled H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III, which published jointly by the World Buddhism Publishing LLC and the World Dharma Voice, Inc., was held at the Library of the Congress of the United States. The book was also formally accepted into the collection of the Library of the Congress of the United States. Only since that time, did people in the world know that Master Wan Ko Yee, who had been broadly respected by the great masses and who had also been known as Great Dharma King Yangwo Yeshe Norbu, had been recognized by the world’s leaders, regent dharma kings, and great rinpoches of Buddhism through official documents as the third incarnation of Dorje Chang Buddha, who is the primordial Sambhogakaya Buddha of the universe. The Buddha’s name is H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III. Since then, people began to address His Holiness the Buddha by “Namo[1] Dorje Chang Buddha III.” This is similar to the situation that Sakyamuni Buddha’s name was Prince Siddhartha Gotama before attaining Buddhahood. However, after Sakyamuni Buddha had attained Buddhahood, His title changed to “Namo Sakyamuni Buddha.” That is why we now address His Holiness the Buddha as “H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III.”

In particular, on December 12, 2012, the Senate Resolution No. 614 of the United States Congress officially used “His Holiness” in the name addressing Dorje Chang Buddha III (That is to say, “H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III.”) Since then, the title and status of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III has been definitive by nature. And, as a matter of fact, “Dorje Chang Buddha III” is a name used legally in governmental and official legislative documents. Therefore, the previously used respected name and titles such as “Wan Ko Yee,” Great Master, and Great Dharma King no longer exist.

However, the news below was published before the Buddha’s title of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III was publicly announced. At that time, people did not know about the true status of His Holiness the Buddha. Therefore, to respect the true history, we still kept the names used before the title of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III was legitimately determined in republishing this news. However, all must clearly know that the only legitimate name of His Holiness the Buddha is H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III and all other names used before the legitimate determination no longer exist.

Los Angeles Asian Journal May 31, 2000

What Type of Expert Is He? The Selling Price of His Painting “Majesty” Has Shocked the World

Some people say that Master Wan Ko Yee (H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III) is an expert in Buddhism. Some say that he is a great painter or a great singer. There are those who say that he is a great medical expert or a great ethicist. There are also those who say that he is a scientist. On May 28th, Unique Art Collections International Co., Ltd. auctioned Master Wan Ko Yee’s painting entitled “Majesty.” An art collector purchased this painting by way of competitive bid for a price of NT$64,950,000 (this equals U.S.$2,125,327.) People all over the world were shocked to hear of this purchase price.

Some people think that the paintings of Master Wan Ko Yee (H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III) are Buddhist paintings and for this reason command such an extraordinarily high price. This viewpoint, which has been expressed to the media by certain people who do not understand art, is totally erroneous. In fact, Mr. Wan Ko Yee is a great artist whose paintings cannot be matched by anyone in this day and age. Eleven of his paintings were exhibited by China in an international art exhibition which took place in Philadelphia in 1978. The mainland Chinese government even built a huge art museum, the first of its kind in thehistory of China, in order to display more than two hundred of his paintings.

Master Wan Ko Yee (H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III) is not only a famous and great artist, he is also a leader in the world of art. When he was twenty years old, he was the head of the Chinese Painting Research Division of the China Education, Science and Culture Organization. This is a high level organization within art circles in China and its leaders include people such as Chou Ying-Nan, Wu Zhang-Shu, Qian Jun-Tao, Xie Zhi-Liao, Liang Shu-Ming, Wan Lai-Ming and Cang Ke-Jia.

In the entire history of Chinese painting, no other painter was able to master the amount of artistic skills, the variety of different styles and the diversity of subject matter which Master Wan Ko Yee has mastered. Other painters could only exhibit two or three different artistic skills at the most. For example, Zhang, Da-Qian exhibited three different artistic skills: line painting, traditional painting and splash ink painting. However, Master Wan Ko Yee has completely mastered a few dozen different artistic skills. Master Wan Ko Yee can paint landscapes, people and other objects, animals, flowers, birds, fish and insects by using the meticulous brushwork style or by using the freehand brushword style. Whichever style he uses, his paintings are always elegant, grand, and full of life. One can get a glimpse of his artistic skills by looking through the huge book which contains a collection of his paintings.

In 1995, the Sichuan Daily News and the Chengdu Evening News each printed an advertisement on behalf of an auction house. This auction house wanted to buy the Master’s paintings for a price of R.M.B. 1,700 yuan per square inch. Master Wan Ko Yee’s skills have reached the highest level in the world when it comes to ink and wash paintings. Thus, in 1991, the World Poets and Culture Congress conferred upon him the title of “The world’s only Distinguished International Master.” This is the highest position possible and is on the same level of honor as a head of state.

Of course, the Master is also an ethicist. His books included Selected Philosophical Saying of Master Wan Ko Yee (H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III) . He is a singer. There are fourteen tapes and CD’s containing his songs. The famous singer Zhang Huw-You is his student. He is a scientist. He developed two green teas called “Ba Wang Chun” and “Bi Yu Chun.” These are the best quality teas in the world. He is a medical expert who has cured countless people of a variety of different diseases. There were times when in one day, more than three hundred people had appointments to see the Master for treatment. The Master invented many new treatments for diseases, such as an extremely effective different experts? Why is it that this one person Master Wan Ko Yee (H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III) , has combined skills of several different experts? The main reason is that he is a Great Dharma King Master of Buddhism. He has truly mastered the Five Knowledges spoken if in Buddhism. All of his skills mentioned above cover only part of the Five Knowledges which he has mastered. Instead of trying to describe what type of the expert he is, it would be better simply to say that he surpasses the word “expert.” He is a precious treasure who is a benefit to humanity. He is a Dharma King Master who is a rare gem in this world.

Link: https://ibsahq.org/news-data-en?id=186

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The Relaxation of Thoughts

Woman sitting cross-legged meditating with glowing colorful energy swirls in a forest

Translated from the Pali by Thanissaro Bhikkhu

I have heard that on one occasion the Blessed One was staying at Savatthi, in Jeta’s Grove, Anathapindika’s monastery. There he addressed the monks, “Monks!”

“Yes, lord,” the monks replied.

The Blessed One said: “When a monk is intent on the heightened mind, there are five themes he should attend to at the appropriate times. Which five?

“There is the case where evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion, or delusion — arise in a monk while he is referring to and attending to a particular theme. He should attend to another theme, apart from that one, connected with what is skillful. When he is attending to this other theme, apart from that one, connected with what is skillful, then those evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion, or delusion — are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it. Just as a skilled carpenter or his apprentice would use a small peg to knock out, drive out, and pull out a large one; in the same way, if evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion, or delusion — arise in a monk while he is referring to and attending to a particular theme, he should attend to another theme, apart from that one, connected with what is skillful. When he is attending to this other theme, apart from that one, connected with what is skillful, then those evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion, or delusion — are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it.

“If evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion, or delusion — still arise in the monk while he is attending to this other theme, connected with what is skillful, he should scrutinize the drawbacks of those thoughts: ‘Truly, these thoughts of mine are unskillful, these thoughts of mine are blameworthy, these thoughts of mine result in stress.’ As he is scrutinizing the drawbacks of those thoughts, those evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion, or delusion — are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it. Just as a young woman — or man — fond of adornment, would be horrified, humiliated, and disgusted if the carcass of a snake or a dog or a human being were hung from her neck; in the same way, if evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion, or delusion — still arise in the monk while he is attending to this other theme, connected with what is skillful, he should scrutinize the drawbacks of those thoughts: ‘Truly, these thoughts of mine are unskillful, these thoughts of mine are blameworthy, these thoughts of mine result in stress.’ As he is scrutinizing the drawbacks of those thoughts, those evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion, or delusion — are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it.

“If evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion or delusion — still arise in the monk while he is scrutinizing the drawbacks of those thoughts, he should pay no mind and pay no attention to those thoughts. As he is paying no mind and paying no attention to them, those evil, unskillful thoughts are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it. Just as a man with good eyes, not wanting to see forms that had come into range, would close his eyes or look away; in the same way, if evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion or delusion — still arise in the monk while he is scrutinizing the drawbacks of those thoughts, he should pay no mind and pay no attention to those thoughts. As he is paying no mind and paying no attention to them, those evil, unskillful thoughts are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it.

“If evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion or delusion — still arise in the monk while he is paying no mind and paying no attention to those thoughts, he should attend to the relaxing of thought-fabrication with regard to those thoughts. As he is attending to the relaxing of thought-fabrication with regard to those thoughts, those evil, unskillful thoughts are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it. Just as the thought would occur to a man walking quickly, ‘Why am I walking quickly? Why don’t I walk slowly?’ So he walks slowly. The thought occurs to him, ‘Why am I walking slowly? Why don’t I stand?’ So he stands. The thought occurs to him, ‘Why am I standing? Why don’t I sit down?’ So he sits down. The thought occurs to him, ‘Why am I sitting? Why don’t I lie down?’ So he lies down. In this way, giving up the grosser posture, he takes up the more refined one. In the same way, if evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion or delusion — still arise in the monk while he is paying no mind and paying no attention to those thoughts, he should attend to the relaxing of thought-fabrication with regard to those thoughts. As he is attending to the relaxing of thought-fabrication with regard to those thoughts, those evil, unskillful thoughts are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it.

“If evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion or delusion — still arise in the monk while he is attending to the relaxing of thought-fabrication with regard to those thoughts, then — with his teeth clenched and his tongue pressed against the roof of his mouth — he should beat down, constrain, and crush his mind with his awareness. As — with his teeth clenched and his tongue pressed against the roof of his mouth — he is beating down, constraining, and crushing his mind with his awareness, those evil, unskillful thoughts are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it. Just as a strong man, seizing a weaker man by the head or the throat or the shoulders, would beat him down, constrain, and crush him; in the same way, if evil, unskillful thoughts — connected with desire, aversion or delusion — still arise in the monk while he is attending to the relaxing of thought-fabrication with regard to those thoughts, then — with his teeth clenched and his tongue pressed against the roof of his mouth — he should beat down, constrain, and crush his mind with his awareness. As — with his teeth clenched and his tongue pressed against the roof of his mouth — he is beating down, constraining, and crushing his mind with his awareness, those evil, unskillful thoughts are abandoned and subside. With their abandoning, he steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it, and concentrates it.

“Now when a monk… attending to another theme… scrutinizing the drawbacks of those thoughts… paying no mind and paying no attention to those thoughts… attending to the relaxing of thought-fabrication with regard to those thoughts… beating down, constraining and crushing his mind with his awareness… steadies his mind right within, settles it, unifies it and concentrates it: He is then called a monk with mastery over the ways of thought sequences. He thinks whatever thought he wants to, and doesn’t think whatever thought he doesn’t. He has severed craving, thrown off the fetters, and — through the right penetration of conceit — has made an end of suffering and stress.”

That is what the Blessed One said. Gratified, the monks delighted in the Blessed One’s words.

Link: https://peacelilysite.com/2026/08/28/the-relaxation-of-thoughts-2/

Floating High on Borrowed Wings: The Parable of the Monk and the Ghost

In a world driven by metrics, social validation, and external applause, it is easy to mistake the platform we stand on for our own height.

A striking story from the Miscellaneous Parables Sutra (雜譬喻經) serves as a timeless reminder of what happens when we rely on borrowed support—and how genuine self-correction and gratitude can transform our lives.

Meditating monk floating above a mountain village with swirling spirit energy

The sutra tells of a monk expelled from his monastic community after committing a serious infraction. Cast out into the cold, he did not spend his solitude reflecting on his actions or feeling genuine remorse. Instead, he was consumed by anxiety, lamenting his lost veneration, the vanished daily offerings, and his ruined reputation.

During his aimless wandering, he encountered a ghost who was similarly miserable, having been banished by Vaisravana, the Heavenly Guardian King. Recognizing a shared plight, the ghost proposed a clever scheme:

“I am invisible to human eyes. I will lift you up and carry you on my back through the sky, creating the illusion that you are an enlightened saint who can fly. When the villagers marvel at your supernatural powers and shower you with rich offerings, we will split the rewards.”

The monk eagerly agreed to the trick.

When the villagers looked up and saw the monk floating effortlessly above their heads, they were stunned. Outraged at what they assumed was a grave mistake, they openly criticized the monastic community for exiling a “holy, enlightened master.” The villagers welcomed the monk back with grand celebrations, lavishing him with honor, luxury, and prestige.

Everyone marveled at how high he could fly, but not a single soul saw the invisible ghost holding him up from underneath.

The grand deception came to a sudden, tragic end. One day, while gliding majestically through the clouds above an admiring crowd, the ghost caught sight of Vaisravana’s celestial guards patrolling the sky. Panic-stricken, the ghost fled instantly to save itself, dropping the monk mid-air.

Deprived of his hidden foundation, the monk plummeted straight to the earth and died on impact. In a single heartbeat, the awe-inspiring elevation vanished, leaving behind only the stark reality of his fall.

This ancient parable holds profound lessons for navigating our modern lives:

1. Change Yourself; Don’t Fool Yourself with Tricks

Calming cortisol storm into peaceful light

When we make mistakes or face setbacks, our default ego response is often self-preservation: making excuses, masking weaknesses, or using superficial fixes to maintain a successful image.

  • The Trap: Relying on pretense or shortcuts creates an inherently fragile foundation. You might fool the world—and even convince yourself—for a short time, but unaddressed flaws will eventually lead to a catastrophic downfall.
  • The Wisdom: True strength demands radical self-honesty and sincere repentance. Growth begins the moment you stop managing impressions, admit your shortcomings, and commit to the quiet work of genuine internal reform.

2. Cultivate Deep Gratitude for Everyday Support

While the monk’s ghost was a force of deception, the story reminds us that no individual ever ascends entirely on their own strength.

  • The Reality: Our everyday accomplishments, safety, and comfort are upheld by a vast, unseen network: the dedication of our families, the collaboration of colleagues, societal infrastructure, and nature itself.
  • The Wisdom: Approach life with profound humility and gratitude. Recognizing that you are constantly sustained by the effort of others keeps the ego in check and prevents you from mistaking collective support for personal superiority.

3. Cultivate True Inner Substance Through Buddhist Practice

In Buddhism, spiritual practice (xūxíng) is not a performance designed to win public admiration, gain influence, or secure material comfort. Its core purpose is twofold: self-liberation (zìlì) and the compassionate liberation of others (lìtā).

The Practical Lesson: External applause, reputation, and titles are merely temporary, borrowed conditions. When life strips away all external privileges, your true capability is measured by your internal substance: your moral integrity, emotional stability, and capacity for wisdom under pressure.

Self-Liberation (Enduring Peace): Authentic practice focuses on purifying the mind from the “Three Poisons”—greed, anger, and ignorance. It is about understanding the nature of impermanence so that you are no longer a slave to praise, wealth, or worldly status. By upholding ethical precepts (Sīla) and cultivating deep mental stability (Samādhi), you gain the true ability to transcend the cycles of anxiety and suffering (Samsāra).

The Bodhisattva Path (Wisdom & Compassion): True practice extends outward through Bodhicitta—the boundless vow to help all sentient beings break free from their own pain. When your actions are driven by genuine wisdom (Prajñā) and selfless compassion, you build an unshakeable spiritual center that remains calm, composed, and helpful to others regardless of external circumstances.

When external validation fades and all borrowed support is withdrawn, what remains is your actual inner substance: your ethics, emotional stability, and capacity for wisdom.

When the applause fades and external support steps back, what internal foundation are you left standing on?

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2026/08/28/floating-high-on-borrowed-wings-the-parable-of-the-monk-and-the-ghost/

It Is Time to Truly Wake Up

After respectfully listening to the Dharma discourse “Focusing Primarily on Cultivating One’s Own Dharma and Conduct” imparted by Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III, I came to a profound realization: It is time to truly wake up!

I am deeply grateful for the blessings of all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas!

Although I had listened to this Dharma discourse before, it seemed to have left almost no impression on me. Just as my Buddha Master said, it went in one ear and out the other. As soon as I finished listening, I forgot what I had heard. The teachings neither entered my mind nor touched my heart. I am truly ashamed of myself.

After listening to this Dharma discourse again, I came to understand more deeply the preciousness of Buddha Dharma, the true meaning of liberation, and how I should make use of my limited lifetime.

First, we must understand that Buddha Dharma is extremely precious and difficult to encounter. Why? Because only Buddha Dharma can enable us to end the cycle of birth and death and transcend the six realms of samsara in which we now exist.

In the past, when Dharma Master Nenghai listened to Geshe Jangba expound the Dharma, he could hear only one sentence each day and had to make a round trip of about 25 miles. It took him half a year to finish listening to that Dharma teaching.

There are also many people who learn Buddhism by studying Buddhist scriptures. Because many scriptures are written in classical Chinese, their meanings can be very difficult to understand. Even when someone can understand the words, the scriptures were compiled by the Five Hundred Arhats based on their recollections of the Dharma expounded by Namo Shakyamuni Buddha. Therefore, deviations in the meaning of the Dharma could inevitably have occurred, and what was recorded may not fully convey the perfect Dharma meaning spoken by the Buddha.

Today, we are able to listen directly to the perfect Dharma teachings of unsurpassed, complete enlightenment expounded by my Buddha Master(H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III). This is truly rare, precious, and extraordinarily auspicious!

When my Buddha Master (H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III)expounds the Dharma, profound principles are explained in simple and accessible language, almost like having an everyday conversation. Deep principles of Buddha Dharma are presented to us clearly and understandably, enabling people of different levels of good roots to gain understanding according to their capacities.

Therefore, we must cherish every opportunity to listen to the Dharma!

Second, we must understand how swiftly impermanence can arrive. How much time do I really have left to waste? Impermanence can take my life at any moment, for death makes no distinction between the young and the old.

Since I have already encountered the true Dharma of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III, I must make good use of my time and genuinely cultivate myself according to the Dharma principles taught by my Buddha Master. I must integrate Buddha Dharma into my everyday life.

At every moment, I should recall the Dharma principles taught by H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III and use them to examine my every word, action, and thought:

Do I truly have compassion?

Have I practiced patience and forbearance?

Have I let go of greed, anger, and ignorance?

Am I still entangled in worldly grievances and disputes over right and wrong?

Are the things I am doing bringing me step by step closer to accomplishment and liberation?

A human existence endowed with the freedoms and favorable conditions for learning the Dharma is difficult to obtain. Even more difficult is the opportunity to hear directly from H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III the perfect Dharma teachings that enable living beings to end the cycle of birth and death!

All worldly phenomena are illusory and ultimately unreal. What, then, is there to cling to?

Isn’t that true?

The people and possessions I cherish most, everything I have worked so hard to obtain—I carefully protect them, constantly afraid that I might lose them. Joy, worry, and anxiety accompany me all the time.

But has this attachment really brought me happiness?

Is this truly the happiness I have always longed for?

Have I actually obtained it?

At the very moment I take my last breath, will any of these things still belong to me?

Therefore, I must clearly establish the true goal of my life: to end the cycle of birth and death and attain liberation.

On the path toward liberation, I must not keep looking around—admiring the scenery here one moment and envying someone else’s treasures the next. Doing so only delays my journey and wastes my precious life and time.

Cultivation means cultivating oneself.

I must listen to the Dharma teachings frequently, and whenever I understand even one principle, I should put it into practice through my actions, speech, and thoughts—the three karmas.

I must constantly examine myself:

Have I let go of greed, anger, and ignorance?

Am I practicing the Six Paramitas and the myriad Bodhisattva practices?

I should begin with the people closest to me. It is in front of those closest to us that we remove our disguises and reveal our true selves. In those relationships, all our shortcomings are exposed most clearly.

I asked myself sincerely: Am I truly compassionate toward my family?

Suppose I have just finished mopping the floor, and suddenly a large footprint appears on the spotless surface. At that very instant, anger and irritation arise within me. I glare angrily at the person responsible, only to receive a casual response:

“Just wipe it again. What’s the big deal?”

Not only was my effort unappreciated, but I also felt that it had been disrespected. My anger immediately intensified, and I raised my voice:

“Why don’t you clean it yourself?”

Such a trivial incident exposed the selfishness within me.

First, my effort was not truly selfless. I expected praise and respect in return. Second, I lacked tolerance and understanding. When someone failed to respect the results of my labor, instead of responding with compassion and patience, I gave rise to anger and resentment.

At the root of the problem was my failure to truly understand the impermanence of all phenomena. I had failed to realize that I should be selfless, compassionate, and forbearing, and that I should do only those things that benefit others.

Instead, I had neglected what was truly important while clinging to things that offered no help whatsoever toward my accomplishment and liberation—my pride, my dignity, my boundaries, and so on.

It is truly time for me to wake up completely.

I must make full use of this limited lifetime, take my Buddha Master (H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III) as my role model, establish unwavering faith, rely upon correct understanding and correct views, and diligently cultivate my own conduct and practice my own Dharma.

I will strive to end the cycle of birth and death and attain liberation as soon as possible.

Written by: Qingxin
Edited by: Sayi

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Beyond Logic: How Compassion Subdued Ancient India’s Sharpest Mind

Aśvaghoṣa (Japanese Kamakura period, 13th century – http://burkecollection.org/catalogue/10-memy%C5%8D-bosatsu)

In the brilliant expanse of Buddhist history, one name stands out with singular brilliance. He was not only the 12th Patriarch in the Zen lineage originating from ancient India, but also a literary genius who captured the hearts of a continent through the power of poetry and music: Aśvaghoṣa (known in Chinese tradition as Bodhisattva Horse-Nneigh).

This is the legendary story of how a once-arrogant Brahmin prodigy suffered a dramatic defeat in a battle of wits, entered the Buddhist monastic order, and ultimately became a towering master who galvanized the rise of Mahayana Buddhism.

Born into a noble Brahmin family in Eastern India, young Aśvaghoṣa possessed exceptional intelligence. He mastered classic texts, arts, and above all, the razor-sharp logic of public debate. In ancient India, intellectual debates were high-stakes events where the defeated party was expected to convert and become a disciple of the victor. Driven by youthful pride, Aśvaghoṣa swept through Central India, issuing a brazen challenge to the entire Buddhist community:

“If any monk can defeat me in debate, I will sever my own head in apology! But if no one dares face me, every monastery in this region must cease striking the ghanta—the traditional wooden blocks and bells used to assemble the sangha!”

Faced with his fierce logic and intimidating rhetoric, no local monk dared step forward. As a result, the once-vibrant monasteries fell silent. Morning gongs and evening bells ceased, and the public prestige of Buddhism plummeted.

Hearing of this crisis from Northern India, an venerable elder named Venerable Pārśva knew that if Aśvaghoṣa’s arrogance went unchecked, the true teachings of the Mahayana tradition would fail to flourish. Despite his advanced age, Pārśva traveled vast distances on foot to answer the challenge.

On the day of the grand debate, the arena was packed with the king, ministers, and tens of thousands of onlookers. Observing the frail, white-haired elder, the young prodigy felt immediate condescension. “Venerable monk,” Aśvaghoṣa asked arrogantly, “what shall be the stakes of our debate?” Pārśva calmly replied, “The loser shall become the disciple of the winner, shaving his head and following him for life.” Aśvaghoṣa readily agreed.

Aśvaghoṣa invited the elder to speak first. Pārśva uttered a single, deceptively simple statement of blessing:

“May the world enjoy peace, may the king live a long life, may the land be rich and joyful, and may all disasters cease.”

A hush fell over the crowd. Aśvaghoṣa froze.

By the rules of debate, Aśvaghoṣa was required to refute his opponent’s opening premise. Yet, Pārśva had stated a benevolent blessing for the country and its sovereign. If Aśvaghoṣa tried to refute it, he would violate public ethics, offend the reigning king present in the crowd, and bear the stigma of cursing his own land. But if he agreed with the statement, he could not break the argument, which meant instant defeat.

Aśvaghoṣa searched his mind, only to realize that his formidable logical framework was completely powerless against a statement rooted entirely in compassion, wisdom, and broad goodwill. Pale and humbled, he bowed deeply to the elder: “I have lost. Your wisdom is wrapped in profound compassion. I will honor my promise.” Pārśva had subdued Aśvaghoṣa’s pride not through heated argument, but through calm, unassailable composure. Aśvaghoṣa shaved his head on the spot and officially entered the Buddhist order.

Under the guidance of Pārśva and his successor Puṇyayaśas, Aśvaghoṣa displayed astonishing spiritual insight. He fully digested the Buddhist Canon (Tripitaka) and channeled his pre-existing artistic and literary talents into spreading the Dharma.

Monk reading a glowing scroll among four tearful horses in cathedral hall

The origin of his name—Aśvaghoṣa, literally meaning “Horse’s Neigh”—is tied to a celebrated event. When King Kaniṣka of the Kushan Empire conquered Central India, he demanded indemnity. Instead of vast fortunes of gold or silver, the King requested only two treasures: the sacred Alms Bowl of the Buddha, and Master Aśvaghoṣa.

To demonstrate the master’s sublime virtue to skeptical court officials, the King conducted a test. Seven warhorses were locked away and starved of food and water for six straight days. On the seventh day, a crowd gathered. Fresh, sweet grass was placed right in front of the starving horses, while Aśvaghoṣa took the high seat to chant and preach the Dharma.

An astonishing scene unfolded: despite their intense hunger, the seven horses did not even lower their heads to eat. Instead, they stood transfixed, listening intently to the serene, compassionate melody of Aśvaghoṣa’s voice, eventually shedding tears of emotion. Moved by how his sacred chants could touch even the animal realm, the world reverently honored him as Aśvaghoṣa Bodhisattva.

Following King Kaniṣka north, Aśvaghoṣa reached the peak of his creative energy. Understanding that rigid dogma rarely moves the hearts of ordinary people, he pioneered the use of literature and music as tools for spiritual education.

His greatest masterpiece, the Buddhacarita (Acts of the Buddha), is an epic narrative poem detailing the life of the Buddha from birth, renunciation, and enlightenment to his final Parinirvana. Characterized by elegant imagery and deep emotional resonance, it became a pinnacle of classical Sanskrit literature, introducing countless readers to the beauty of Buddhist philosophy. Furthermore, as the trusted spiritual mentor to King Kaniṣka, he played a central role in presiding over the Fourth Buddhist Council, solidifying the theoretical foundation of Mahayana Buddhism.

Aśvaghoṣa’s life is a timeless story of arrogance yielding to genuine wisdom. In his youth, he sought to conquer the world with sharp intellect, yet when confronted with true spiritual depth, he chose to surrender to compassion. By subduing his ego and dedicating his creative gifts to all living beings, he transformed from a defensive debater into a compassionate artist whose voice moved both human hearts and nature alike.

Reference Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A%C5%9Bvagho%E1%B9%A3a

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2026/08/25/beyond-logic-how-compassion-subdued-ancient-indias-sharpest-mind/

An Awakening While Stopped at a Red Light

Sometimes, what suddenly wakes us up and brings clarity to our minds is not the sound of a temple bell. It can be something as ordinary as watching the countdown on a traffic light at an intersection.

That day, I was riding my scooter and stopped at a red light. I found myself staring at the numbers as they counted down, one second at a time…

Normally, those numbers simply tell us how many seconds we have to wait before moving on. But for some reason, at that moment, something gently struck me deep inside.

I suddenly realized: It wasn’t just the traffic light that was counting down. Our lives are counting down too.

Every time another second disappears from the display, one second of our own lives is gone as well.

We often talk about the Buddhist teaching of “impermanence.” We have heard countless times how swiftly life passes and how quickly circumstances can change. In His Dharma discourses, Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III has also compassionately reminded us time and again of how frightening impermanence can be and how it is constantly unfolding right before our eyes.

Yet this is simply how we human beings are. We may understand these teachings intellectually, but somehow they never seem to truly frighten us deep down.

We continue drifting through our days in a haze. We still lose our temper. We still tightly hold on to attachments, grudges, and conflicts that we cannot seem to let go of. We always think there is still plenty of time. We simply assume that when the sun rises tomorrow, we will still be here.

It often takes an ordinary, seemingly insignificant moment to suddenly wake us up:

From the day we were born, our lives have already been counting down.

Older generations often say that the frightening thing is not that we are slowly growing old, but that we do not even realize we are growing older day by day.

When today passes, one more day of our life is gone. When this second slips away, we will never be able to get it back again.

The Verse of Admonition by Samantabhadra Bodhisattva says:

“This day has already passed, and our lives have likewise diminished. Like fish in a shrinking pool of water, what joy can there be? We should diligently and vigorously cultivate ourselves, as urgently as if extinguishing a fire upon our heads. Be ever mindful of impermanence, and never give way to negligence.”

Every time I read this verse, it strikes me deeply.

Aren’t we just like fish in a pond whose water is slowly drying up? The water decreases day by day, yet we are still fighting fiercely with one another over a few pieces of fish food, completely forgetting that before long, when the water dries up, none of us can escape what follows.

When we look back carefully at all the noise and turmoil of this world—the pursuit of fame and personal gain, who wins and who loses—the things that once seemed unbearable, the things we thought we could never let go of, what do they amount to when we look back several years later?

They were little more than a dream from which we eventually awakened.

What truly matters in life has never been whether everything goes our way at this particular moment. What really matters is whether, during this lifetime, we have sincerely followed the Buddha’s teachings, whether we have earnestly cultivated ourselves, and whether we have worked toward freeing ourselves from the suffering of reincarnation.

If we can show others a little more compassion, then let us do so.

If we can lessen our attachments even a little, then let us loosen our grip.

If there is a good deed we can do today or a kind thought we can give rise to today, we should not put it off until tomorrow.

Because none of us knows what awaits us after the light turns green and we pass through this intersection.

At the next crossroads, will we simply continue along the familiar road we have traveled so many times before—or will we have reached the end of our journey in this life?

While we still have the strength, and while we still possess this precious human body, let us remind ourselves of this at every moment.

Do not wait until the light has gone out to regret having let this precious life pass by in vain.

—Buddhist disciple Gao Qiyuan
August 6, 2026

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Beyond Recognition: The True Measure of Wisdom and Compassion

In Tibetan Buddhism, a single recognition certificate from a lineage or sect can establish the revered status of a Rinpoche. However, to be recognized as the genuine reincarnation of a Buddha requires formal confirmation from the grand Dharma Kings and supreme leaders across all different traditions.

Throughout Buddhist history, when a master reaches extraordinary spiritual attainment, they are acknowledged by multiple eminent monastics. Yet, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III stands unique: he has received formal recognition, corroboration, and congratulations from over 100 top Dharma Kings, Regent Dharma Kings, and leaders across every major Buddhist sect. He is the first person in recorded Buddhist history to receive such unanimous and overwhelming recognition.

These prominent spiritual leaders unanimously confirmed that H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III is the physical reincarnation of the Primordial Buddha, Dorje Chang Buddha. Following a sacred tradition refined over more than a thousand years, this historic consensus points to a profound truth: as a Buddha embodies the ultimate height of wisdom, enlightenment, and spiritual perfection, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III represents the highest leader of Buddhism in our modern world.

Built on the Foundation of Compassion

Yet, for H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III, titles, supreme status, and earthly accolades are secondary. Throughout his life, he has remained completely unaffected by global awards, fame, or even baseless slander. His primary focus has never been his exalted standing, but rather living out the heart of Buddha Dharma: causality, peace, harmony, and selfless compassion.

Rather than remaining on a pedestal, he steps into the world to quietly change lives through action:

  • Relief in Times of Crisis: In 2005, when Hurricane Katrina devastated the southern United States, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III donated 4.95 million original shares in a high-end art frame company—valued at $1.2 million—on behalf of his family to the United Relief Committee.
  • A Quiet Life of Service: Venerable Long Hui, former CEO of the United Relief Committee and previous abbess of Hua Zang Si Temple in San Francisco, once shared from her personal knowledge:“As the CEO of the United Relief Committee and the abbess of the temple, I must speak truthfully from my heart. In fact, the Master’s (H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III) entire family consists of artists who rely on the income from their artistic creations to make a living. Yet for many years, they have consistently helped countless people, both inside and outside the temple. What I personally know of alone is substantial……”
  • Protecting Communities: At the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, long before self-preservation became the norm, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III quietly led effort after effort, supplying crucial personal protective equipment (PPE) and supplies directly to local police departments, hospitals, and frontline institutions.

Living with utmost humility and simplicity, he has never sought material rewards or personal comfort. Instead, his life has been dedicated entirely to easing the suffering of others and sharing the pure Dharma that leads to genuine liberation.

A Touch that Ripples Across the World

True greatness is rarely found in loud titles or distant thrones. It is found in the quiet, steady warmth of a life offered entirely for the benefit of others.

When one person lights a lamp in the dark, its glow reaches far beyond the room where it stands. In the same way, every act of selfless giving, every teaching of peace, and every moment of unconditional compassion creates a gentle ripple across our shared world.

We may not all carry the grand weight of history or the honor of titles, but through his example, we are reminded of what truly matters: that the highest spiritual path is simply a heart wide enough to hold the world, hands willing to help without asking for anything in return, and a quiet commitment to leave every life we touch a little brighter than we found it.

Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2026/08/21/beyond-recognition-the-true-measure-of-wisdom-and-compassion/

Reference: https://spacecoastdaily.com/2021/12/h-h-dorje-chang-buddha-iii-teaching-people-to-attain-wisdom-through-compassion-especially-in-these-uncertain-times/

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The Power of Sleep: 6 Simple Nighttime Habits Your Body Will Thank You For

The Secret to a Healthier You May Begin at Bedtime

    Woman sleeping in futuristic chamber labeled deep sleep and restoration 88 percent

    Have you ever noticed that sometimes you eat very little and exercise regularly, yet the number on the scale simply refuses to budge? Perhaps you even feel that the weight around your waist is slowly increasing.

    The problem may not always be what you eat or how much you exercise.

    It may also have something to do with how well you sleep.

    Our bodies follow an internal 24-hour clock known as the circadian rhythm, which influences hormones, appetite, metabolism, body temperature, and many other essential functions. Research from Harvard Medical School and other institutions has shown that insufficient or poor-quality sleep can disrupt these processes, affect hunger and stress hormones, and make maintaining a healthy weight more difficult.

    In other words, sleep is not simply “downtime.” It is one of the times when your body is actively repairing, regulating, and restoring itself.

    The good news is that you don’t need an extreme diet or punishing workout routine to support your health. Sometimes, a few simple changes to your evening routine can make a meaningful difference.

    Here are six simple, science-informed bedtime habits worth trying.

    1. Finish Eating 2–3 Hours Before Bed

    One of the simplest ways to support healthy sleep and metabolism is to give your body some time to digest before you go to bed.

    During sleep, the body enters an important period of repair and restoration. Growth hormone (GH) is released in pulses, particularly during deep sleep. Growth hormone plays an important role in tissue repair, muscle maintenance, and metabolism, and it also influences the way the body uses stored energy.

    However, growth hormone and insulin act as metabolic “natural enemies.” When you eat before bed—especially carbohydrates or high-sugar foods—the resulting rise in blood sugar triggers a surge in insulin secretion. High levels of insulin not only force excess calories to be stored as abdominal fat but also powerfully inhibit the release of growth hormone during deep sleep. Maintaining a state of mild fasting for two to three hours before bedtime keeps insulin at a low baseline, effectively lifting the blockade on growth hormone and allowing the body to seamlessly switch into “fat-burning mode” overnight.

    That doesn’t mean you should go to bed hungry. The goal is simply to avoid turning bedtime into another meal.

    Try this: Aim to finish dinner about 2–3 hours before going to sleep. If you genuinely feel hungry later, choose a small, balanced snack rather than forcing yourself to ignore hunger.

    The goal isn’t starvation. It’s giving your body a comfortable transition from digestion to rest.

    2. Do 5–10 Minutes of Gentle Stretching

    Woman in lavender pajamas stretching on a bedroom rug at night

    After a busy and stressful day, your body may still be carrying physical tension even after you get into bed.

    Stress activates the body’s sympathetic nervous system, often called the “fight-or-flight” system, and can increase levels of cortisol, a hormone involved in the body’s stress response. Chronic stress and poor sleep can affect appetite, metabolism, and where the body tends to store fat.

    Gentle stretching can be a wonderful way to signal that the busy part of the day is over.

    Unlike an intense late-night workout, slow stretching is calming and can help release muscle tension. It may also help you become more aware of your breathing and prepare your nervous system for sleep.

    Try this: Spend just 5–10 minutes doing gentle neck, shoulder, back, hip, and leg stretches. Move slowly and comfortably, without forcing any position.

    Think of it not as exercise, but as a transition ritual from activity to rest.

    3. Try Slow, Relaxed Breathing

    Your breathing is one of the easiest ways to influence your state of relaxation.

    A popular technique is 4-7-8 breathing:

    • Inhale gently for 4 seconds.
    • Hold your breath for 7 seconds.
    • Exhale slowly for 8 seconds.

    The most important part for relaxation is the slow, extended exhalation. Slow breathing can increase parasympathetic activity—the part of the nervous system associated with rest and recovery—and may help reduce feelings of stress and physical tension.

    You don’t have to follow the exact 4-7-8 pattern if holding your breath feels uncomfortable. Simply try breathing slowly and making your exhalation slightly longer than your inhalation.

    Try this: Close your eyes, relax your shoulders, and take 5–10 slow breaths. Let each exhalation become a little longer and softer.

    Sometimes, the simplest message you can give your body is:

    “The day is over. You are safe. It’s time to rest.”

    4. Put Away Electronic Screens 30–60 Minutes Before Bed

    This is one of the most practical bedtime habits you can develop.

    Phones, tablets, computers, and televisions can expose us to light that may suppress the natural evening rise of melatonin, a hormone involved in regulating the sleep-wake cycle. More importantly, scrolling, watching exciting videos, checking messages, or reading stressful news can keep the brain mentally stimulated when it should be winding down.

    And when bedtime becomes another hour of stimulation, falling asleep can become much harder.

    Try this: Put your phone away 30–60 minutes before bed. Dim the lights, turn off bright overhead lighting, and use a soft bedside lamp instead.

    You could read a few pages of a paper book, listen to peaceful music, practice meditation, pray, or simply sit quietly.

    Your evening routine doesn’t need to be complicated.

    Sometimes, putting the phone down is one of the best gifts you can give your brain.

    5. Keep Your Bedroom Cool, Dark, and Comfortable

    Your body naturally lowers its core temperature as you prepare for sleep. A bedroom that is slightly cool, dark, and quiet can make it easier for your body to follow this natural rhythm.

    Some research has also explored the relationship between cooler sleeping environments and brown adipose tissue, commonly known as brown fat. Unlike ordinary white fat, brown fat can generate heat by using energy. However, it is important not to think of a cold bedroom as a weight-loss treatment—the primary goal is simply to create an environment that supports good-quality sleep.

    Try this: Keep your bedroom comfortably cool, perhaps around 18–20°C (64–68°F) if that feels comfortable for you, and use blackout curtains or an eye mask if necessary.

    Don’t make yourself uncomfortably cold. The ideal bedroom is not an icebox!

    It should simply feel cool, quiet, dark, and peaceful.

    6. Take a Warm Shower or Soak Your Feet Before Bed

    Here’s a surprisingly pleasant bedtime habit: take a warm shower or soak your feet in warm water for about 10–15 minutes.

    It may seem counterintuitive, but warming the body before bed can actually help promote cooling afterward.

    A warm shower or bath causes blood vessels near the skin to dilate. After you finish, your body can release heat more easily, and your core temperature gradually falls. This natural change in body temperature is associated with the body’s preparation for sleep.

    For many people, a warm shower is also psychologically relaxing, helping separate the stresses of the day from the peacefulness of nighttime.

    Try this: About 1–2 hours before bed, take a comfortably warm shower or soak your feet in warm water. Then put on comfortable pajamas and let your body gradually cool down.

    It can become a simple and soothing signal that says:

    “It’s time to slow down.”

    Your Body Doesn’t Need a Battle—It Needs Rhythm

    Healthy weight management and good health don’t have to be a form of punishment.

    We often focus so much on calories, workouts, and dieting that we forget something fundamental: our bodies need adequate sleep and recovery, too.

    Sleeping girl dreaming of a unicorn, castles, clouds, and waterfall

    Rather than constantly forcing yourself to eat less or exercise harder, consider working with your body’s natural rhythms.

    Tonight, try something simple:

    Put your phone away.

    Dim the lights.

    Stretch for five minutes.

    Take a few slow breaths.

    Let your bedroom become cool and peaceful.

    And give yourself permission to sleep.

    You may not wake up dramatically lighter the next morning—and that’s not the point. Healthy change is rarely overnight.

    The real goal is to build an evening routine that helps your body recover, supports better sleep, and makes healthy living feel natural and sustainable.

    In our busy world, getting enough good-quality sleep may be one of the simplest—and most overlooked—investments we can make in ourselves.

    Sleep well, take good care of your body, and may every new morning bring you more energy, health, and happiness.

    Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2026/08/19/6-simple-bedtime-habits-that-may-help-your-body-rest-recover-and-maintain-a-healthy-weight/

    The Art of Virtue: Grandmaster Mei Lanfang and the Power of Forgiveness

    During his tour of the United States, Mei Lanfang was awarded an honorary doctorate degree by Pomona College

    In the history of modern Chinese opera, Mei Lanfang stands as an unexcelled monument. Renowned worldwide, his mastery of Peking Opera was a rare blend of supreme refinement and effortless grace, captivating audiences on both domestic and international stages.

    As a master synthesist of Peking Opera, Grandmaster Mei founded the unique “Mei School” (Mei Pai) of performance. He boldly yet carefully revolutionized vocal techniques, spoken dialogue, dance movements, costuming, and makeup, elevating the Dan (female role) artistry to unprecedented heights. Traveling abroad to perform in Japan, the United States, and the Soviet Union, he showcased the enchanting elegance of traditional Chinese theater, taking the world by storm.

    Yet, what truly commands the eternal admiration of generations is not merely his status as a titan of Chinese opera, but his personal character—a paragon of nobility, virtue, and moral guidance. His life was the ultimate testament to the phrase: “His art mirrored his soul; brilliant in craft, supreme in virtue.”

    Among the many chapters of his life, one heartwarming story illustrates the profound depth of his character.

    The Slander and the Silence

    During the height of his fame, a reporter from a sensationalist tabloid sought to build a name for himself by publishing provocative and baseless attacks against Mei Lanfang. Aiming to generate public outrage and boost newspaper sales, the reporter repeatedly targeted the master.

    Faced with malicious provocation, Master Mei remained completely silent and undisturbed.

    Frustrated by the lack of reaction, the reporter grew increasingly aggressive, resorting to harsh insults and public humiliation. Surrounding friends, family, and disciples were furious, unable to stand by while the grandmaster’s honor was attacked. They prepared to confront the reporter, but Mei calmly restrained them, saying gently:

    “Leave it be. Pay him no mind.”

    Without fuel to feed the flames, the media spectacle eventually died down, vanishing into thin air.

    Time passed, and fortune turned. The reporter fell into severe poverty and hardship. Desperate, rejected by everyone, and with nowhere left to turn, a thought suddenly crossed his mind:

    Could he ask Mei Lanfang for help?

    Filled with shame, guilt, and apprehension, he mustered every ounce of courage he had left and arrived at Mei’s doorstep. Upon learning of his visitor, Mei came out to greet him personally. Overwhelmed by remorse, the reporter immediately began reciting a deeply prepared apology, repenting for his past wrongdoings.

    Mei gently interrupted him, his voice calm and soft:

    “Say no more. What brings you here today?”

    The reporter confessed his current plight—his poverty, his isolation, and his inability to secure assistance anywhere else.

    Without a trace of bitterness, resentment, or judgment, Mei reached into his pocket and handed him 200 yuan—a generous sum at the time.

    Shaken to his core by such extraordinary magnanimity, the reporter fell to his knees in tears. Mei simply helped him up gently and said quietly:

    “Go on now.”

    Noble figure reaching toward an injured soldier beside a castle at sunset

    In a world driven by fame, self-interest, and grievances, choosing compassion over retaliation and offering a helping hand to someone who once sought your downfall requires a rare kind of nobility. Mei Lanfang practiced charity, generosity, tolerance, and strict self-discipline throughout his life.

    • On stage, he was an extraordinary genius who redefined an art form.
    • Off stage, he was a humble gentleman and a true master of life.

    This profound grace—transcending personal pride and past grudges—is perhaps the true, timeless spirit behind the lasting brilliance of the Mei School of Peking Opera.

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    Link:https://peacelilysite.com/2026/08/14/the-art-of-virtue-grandmaster-mei-lanfang-and-the-power-of-forgiveness/